Q&A: Invitations: Is It Rude To Put Our Registry On The Invitations?

Q:

We are ready to send out our invitations. The only problem is that we don't know whether we should include a card stating where we are registered. In the past, I have received some invitations with one and some without.

A:

The short answer is yes -- it's considered rude to put your registry on the invitations because it suggests that getting a gift is just as important as inviting your guests to the wedding. Of course that's not the case. Instead, put a link to your registries (most couples have three) onto your wedding website and direct friends and family there for all the other fun details. If you're really concerned that no one will be able to find your registry, do as couples did before there were wedding websites. Have your close family and best friends spread the word to whomever asks about it.


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Q&A: Invitations: Destination Wedding Etiquette?

My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

by The Knot