Inside Bachelorette Clare Crawley's Relationship With Dale Moss
The quickest engagement in Bachelorette history may come with its own set of questions. Clare Crawley, one of two Bachelorettes in 2020, and fiancé Dale Moss are off again, according to multiple outlets.
Multiple insiders have affirmed the two were unable to get on the same page. First, one big issue was settling on a centralized place to call home, followed by fundamental differences in possible future decisions, like raising children.
The couple first parted ways in January 2021, two months after the country witnessed their engagement. Months later, they reconciled, though an engagement was still speculative. "They're engaged but still are working on building a solid relationship. They've discussed future plans but aren't necessarily wedding planning," a source told Us Weekly at the time. "They aren't rushing to tie the knot."
Clare and Dale's Relationship Timeline
In January, the former athlete shared a post about their split. "I wanted share with you all that Clare and I have decided to go our separate ways. We appreciate the love and support we've received from so many people, but this is the healthiest decision for both of us at this time," Moss wrote on Instagram. "We strongly believe in leading with love and always remaining true to oneself - something our families have taught and instilled in us throughout our lives. We only hope the best things for one another. Please respect our privacy as we work through this together."
Crawley didn't directly comment on the split on her end, though E! News reported the couple was on a break at the time. "They are mainly in disagreement over lifestyle preferences. Dale wants to be in a lively city and focus on his career, and Clare is rooted in Sacramento to help care for her mom," a source told the outlet. "It's been very tense recently between them."
However, it wasn't until March when multiple outlets reported the couple was patching things up within their relationship. Crawley even welcomed her 40th birthday together with Moss, as he further touched on the surprising reconciliation in a podcast taping with Hollywood Raw. "We're just living life and we're doing it and being present with one another," Moss said. "It's been great to go about it that way."
In late April, Crawley was spotted with a suspiciously familiar-looking diamond ring on her hand. Nevertheless, it remains unclear whether the couple's wedding is still on, or they're simply dating.
Moss currently lives in New York City, though he's frequently visited the hairstylist in La Jolla as they've maintained a long-distance relationship. Crawley has been especially focused on spending quality time with her mother, who suffers from Alzheimer's disease and dementia. "I'm so thankful to be able to see my mom in person now," she wrote in mid-January. "I get so emotional because this time is precious and I know means everything to both of us, especially as her mind is slipping away and her body is getting weaker. I try and sing and laugh to add a little sunshine to her day, even if it's only for the 20 minutes they allow. I love it. She has good days and bad, Just like we all do."
She alluded to challenges by concluding her post with a vulnerable moment. "Well today I couldn't hide my hard day. A mother always knows," Crawley wrote. "Without saying a word, she reached in her pocket and pulled out this tissue and just squeezed my hand."
The Proposal
The couple's engagement played out on an episode of ABC's smash reality franchise in November 2020. After weeks of drama about Crawley's selectiveness with Moss, her First Impression Rose recipient, Crawley finally made the decision that she would circumvent the usual process of a courtship with dozens of other suitors. During the process, she was received with a scorching line by longtime host Chris Harrison. "Congratulations," he paused. "You've just blown up The Bachelorette."
Crawley, a mainstay for multiple seasons of the show, had long known Moss was her chosen one. Upon first meeting the former NFL player, she confessed, "I think I just met my husband." Throughout the season, the reality lead continued to hone in on her instinct, plucking Moss as her "fiance" after only three dates. Harrison did what he could and dialed jeweler to the stars Neil Lane, who's long provided engagement rings for the franchise leads and the spinoff couples, with an emergency request. "I need a ring today," he noted to Lane.
The production staff of the show quickly pulled together the proposal in Palm Springs. "From the moment I knew you were coming, I was so excited to meet you," Crawley expressed to Moss. (She had done her due diligence during quarantine to research her contestants.) "Then when you got here, it was electricity for me, because I knew that I had just met my husband. You embody everything that I want in a man, everything just like my dad had. You're kind, you're strong, you're compassionate, and I just am so in love with the man that you are."
"You made me feel like everything that I've ever been through, it was all worth it because I've got you right now," she added. "And most importantly, you've shown me that you'd never run away and never leave me. And I've never, ever had a man that would stay. And you continue to show up for me. And I promise you, I want to show up for you each and every single day. You make me so happy."
Moss echoed her sentiments. "I want to be here for you. I want to be strong. I want you to feel protected, and I want nothing more than to keep moving forward, to be there for you each and every day," he noted. "I thought a lot about my mother and what she would think about you, and she would absolutely love you. And all she's ever wanted for me is someone that just loves me unconditionally, and who would be there for me no matter what. I know that I have that, and I love you."
From there, Moss plopped down on one knee to ask Crawley to be his wife. "I'm so appreciative for you, and the best is yet to come," the former athlete noted. "I want to make you happy and be there for you each and every day. So, with that being said, I'm going to do it. Clare, will you marry me?"
The Bachelorette 2020 Production Background
Crawley's season was anything but typical in more than one way. In March, the coronavirus pandemic prompted the swift shut-down of filming as all crew and cast members went into quarantine. "We talk about it every day," Robert Mills, the head of alternative programming at ABC, said previously on the Chicks in the Office podcast. "Obviously it's super important. Look, I'll be honest: We will do it as soon as it's safe …The first minute we possibly can."
With a delay of the franchise filming and Crawley's unexpected decision, fan-favorite Tayshia Adams became the second Bachelorette of 2020. Adams is also co-hosting Katie Thurston's season of The Bachelorette with Kaitlyn Bristowe.
These men will be forgetting about Clare in record time when they see Tayshia coming out of the limo. #TheBachelorette pic.twitter.com/8I3bbjQlB6
— The Knot (@theknot) November 6, 2020
As a result of the new production schedule, both Mills and Harrison confirmed they had to go so far to recast the original contestants, with the understanding that the men who were originally cast might not be available whenever filming resumed. "All of our lives are turned upside down," Harrison told ET amid COVID in 2020. "So it's naive to think that all of these guys are going to be able to come back and pick right back up where we left off."
Adams' season continued with the same group of men upon Crawley's departure, and she ultimately ended up with Zac Clark. Both Clark and Adams are still engaged.