LGBTQ+ Weddings: Can We Do Separate Wedding Showers?

Q:

I have close friends who would like to throw a shower for us, and now my partner's family would like to throw one for us as well. Is this okay?

A:

Yes, it's more than okay! It's totally normal that separate groups of friends and family will want to celebrate with you before the wedding day. Whether you choose to combine the two is entirely up to you. Some couples like the idea of having one shower and inviting everyone, whereas others feel like it makes more sense to have separate events.

The biggest deciding factor should probably be the guest list. If there's quite a bit of overlap between the two lists, then it might make sense to plan one big shower. If that's not the case and you're picturing one tame shower and the other a bit rowdier, go ahead and separate the parties. Just make sure to tell your wedding party they aren't expected to go to both!