Who Is Tom Daley's Husband? All About the Olympic Diver's Love Story

The gold medalist married director Dustin Lance Black at a UK castle in 2017.
Tom Daley with his husband Dustin Lance Black
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Sarah Hanlon
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Updated Jun 06, 2024

Let's dive into Tom Daley's love story with his husband, shall we? The record-breaking British Olympic diver met director Dustin Lance Black by chance at a dinner party in Los Angeles over a decade ago—and it was love at first sight. After taking their romance public, the couple got engaged in October 2015. They exchanged vows at a castle two years later, and have since welcomed two children together.

So, who is Tom Daley's husband? Here's everything to know about Dustin Lance Black, including the sweetest details from his romance with the Olympic gold medalist.

  • Tom Daley is married to Dustin Lance Black, a movie director and screenwriter.
  • Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black met at a Los Angeles dinner party in 2013.
  • After getting engaged in 2015, Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black got married on May 6, 2017.
  • Tom Daley and his husband share two sons together: Robbie, born in 2018, and Phoenix, born in 2023.

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Who is Tom Daley's husband, Dustin Lance Black?

Tom with his husband Dustin Lance Black
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Four-time Olympic diving medalist Tom Daley is married to Dustin Lance Black. The 49-year-old Sacramento native is an Oscar-winning screenwriter, director and producer. Black is best known for writing the 2008 film Milk, which won the Academy Award for Best Original Screenplay. He also wrote the screenplay for J. Edgar, a 2011 drama starring Leonardo DiCaprio, and the 2022 crime miniseries Under the Banner of Heaven.

Tom Daley's husband is also a dedicated LGBTQIA+ rights activist. He is a founding member of the American Foundation for Equal Rights, a nonprofit best known for challenging Proposition 8: a California ballot proposition that intended to ban same-sex marriage in the state.

How Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black Met

Tom Daley and his husband met at a 2013 dinner party in Los Angeles. In a YouTube video announcing his relationship, Daley called their initial encounter "love at first sight." At the time, he had never publicly addressed his sexuality.

During an appearance on The Jonathan Ross Show, the Olympic athlete opened up about the "terrifying" decision to be so candid about his personal life on the internet. "I didn't know what the reaction was going to be like," he explained. "I didn't know how it was going to go but I just felt like I needed to say something."

Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black's Relationship Timeline

Tom Daley and his husband have been madly in love for over ten years. Here's a look at their relationship timeline, from 2013 to today.

March 2013: Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black Meet

Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black recalled their meet-cute in a 2016 feature for Out. According to Black, he almost didn't accept a friend's last-minute dinner party invitation because he was busy working on a script. After some minor convincing, he decided to go—but he never expected that he'd meet the love of his life that evening. "When Tom walked in I was, like, 'Oh my God, he's so cute,'" Black recalled. "I knew who he was—I'd watched the Olympics—but in person I found him more mature and confident than I had expected."

They exchanged numbers and went on their first date later that week. From there, it didn't take long for things to get serious. "Quite honestly, we talked about marriage within the first two weeks after seeing each other the first time in LA," Daley said. "That was the weird thing: that it came up in conversation so many times. I always knew it was going to happen at some point."

October 2015: Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black Get Engaged

Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black shared the news of their engagement on October 1, 2015, with an announcement published in The Times. The next day, Daley posted a photo of their engagement rings—matching platinum bands with an inset emerald-cut diamond—stacked on top of the newspaper. "#HeSaidYES 💍💍and then #ISaidYES ❤️," the diver wrote. "Thanks for all the lovely messages!"

May 2017: Tom Daley Marries Dustin Lance Black

Four years after they first met, Tom Daley married Dustin Lance Black on May 6, 2017. The nuptials took place at Bovey Castle in Devon, England, not far from Daley's hometown. Keep scrolling to relive all the details from Tom Daley's wedding.

2018-2023: Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black's Sons Are Born

Tom Daley and his husband share two sons together: Robbie, born in 2018, and Phoenix, born in 2023. Black announced the news of their firstborn on Instagram, writing, "Welcome to the world little Robbie Ray. Thank you for bringing so much love and light with you. And thank you to those who helped turn our dream of having a family into this wonderful reality. ❤️" In his own post, Daley added, "The amount of love and joy you have brought into our life is immeasurable. Our precious son. ❤👶🏼❤."

The couple announced the arrival of their second child in April 2023 with another social media reveal. "And then there were four," Black wrote. "Our second son, Phoenix Rose Black-Daley, arrived at 3:34pm on March 28, 2023. ❤️"

Inside Dustin Lance Black and Tom Daley's Wedding

Dustin Lance Black and Tom Daley's wedding took place on May 6, 2017, at Bovey Castle. The grooms celebrated with 120 loved ones in a multi-day event that Daley called "the most special weekend of our lives."

According to The Mirror, a string quartet played as Daley and Black walked down the aisle. Speaking to The Plymouth Herald, a local newspaper, a source said, "It was a beautiful ceremony, their vows were so brilliant and heartfelt."

The publication also reported that guests enjoyed a lavish spread of "British classics" for dinner, including Beef Wellington, sausage and mash and Eton Mess. Daley also allegedly made their multi-tier wedding cake.

During the reception speeches, Daley's mother delivered a touching tribute to his father, who passed away from a brain tumor in 2011. As the evening came to an end, guests enjoyed a colorful display of fireworks above the castle grounds.

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