My wife and I are not religious and did not have any specific traditions or needs with our wedding ceremony...our main mission was a short and sweet ceremony. I say this to clarify that we were likely one of the simplest and least complex cerem...onies which will add context to the grievances below.
But, first I will start with the good stuff. When we first starting working with Alicia, she provided a packet that basically broke down every option/way we could do our ceremony. This was great because we didn’t have many thoughts going into it and was great to be able to pick and choose those options. We filled out the packet and gave her all of the necessary details and this was one of the more straightforward processes in our wedding planning.
Unfortunately, the rest of our experience was not as easy. The next time with saw Alicia was the day before the wedding in which we did a short rehearsal (this was just our planners and my wife and I since we didn’t have a wedding party). As we discussed the microphone with her, she let us know that she was not comfortable with a traditional stand microphone since it gives her anxiety. Eventually she caved and agreed to use the stand microphone, but this was just odd that she isn’t comfortable speaking to a crowd behind a mic even though this is the very nature of being an officiant. At this rehearsal, we made sure she had all of the information that we had provided in the packet including our vows and the list of names for the “In Memory of” part and especially emphasized the importance that she mention my father, who passed away from cancer and there were also three other names of family members that had passed away within the last few years and needed to be mentioned to honor their survivors who would be at the ceremony. She promised to have everything printed and we even emailed her the information for safe measure. Before we left, she double-checked the time of the ceremony because she was worried that she would be able to make it on time since she had to work her other job! This was also concerning, but we were hopeful that she would come through. The clincher was that she completely forgot to do the names “In Memory of” part of the ceremony despite the fact that I had stressed the importance of it just a day before. When we went to sign the wedding contract towards the end of the ceremony, I mentioned that she missed the names in the “In Memory Of” part and she looked like a kid who had forgotten their homework. She looked through her book and she hadn’t printed the names. I reminded her of my dad’s name when we went back to finish the ceremony, she did some really quick and awkward thing to mention him and she wasn’t able to mention the other names. We had family members that we had to profusely apologize to and ensure that they knew how much we cared about their lost loved ones. It was shocking that it was missed and on top of all of the other small things, definitely dampered the ceremony. She also botched up the name of the one of the witnesses of our wedding and even called out that she didn’t know how to pronounce it. We figured she would have asked the for the pronunciation before the ceremony.
Alicia is generally disorganized and in most of our interactions was distracted and making excuses. She seemed to see this as a side gig to her and she lacks professionalism or accountability. I would not recommend her to conduct the ceremony if we had to do it again.