Should You Invite Your Mom to the Bachelorette Party?

Have a great relationship with your mom and soon-to-be mother-in-law? Wonderful. But do you have to invite them to your bachelorette party?
by Simone Hill and Ivy Jacobson
Bridesmaids toast champagne in matching floral robes
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You love your mom and she's your best friend, but she just called and asked if she can come to the bachelorette party—now what? Well, there's no right or wrong answer here. It all comes down to your relationship with your mom and if you and your friends are comfortable with the idea. If your first thought is "of course!" then the answer is really simple—invite her along. Traditionally, having moms in tow hasn't been the norm, but recently, an increasing number of brides are having them along for the fun. Simply put, it's your wedding and you should have whomever you want at your bachelorette party, whether it's going to be raunchy or relaxed.

But if you're uncertain or downright against your mom attending, then you may need to handle the situation a bit more carefully. First of all, it's totally okay to say "no" to this request (in the nicest way possible of course), even if you're not having the heavy-drinking, sex-toy-gift-giving, all-night-clubbing kind of bash. Here are more tips for how to tell mom she's not invited to the bachelorette.

Be Honest

This is our advice for just about anything where feelings and relationships are involved. Instead of giving a vague response, like "we'll see," or putting the decision off until later, be up front about the fact you only want your friends and bridesmaids at the bachelorette. She'll probably be completely understanding if you list your reasons you'd rather not have her there. And if you get some pushback, try to talk it out and even offer an alternative. Which brings us to our next point…

Plan a Two-Part Bachelorette Party

Dinner, a cooking class, spa treatments and crafts are just a few family-friendly ways you can start off your bachelorette. Then that night or later on in the night, plan to do all the things you'd want to without your mom. This way, mom feels like she's part of the gang and you can still have a parent-free night later on. This is also a great idea if you have underage family members you want to include.

Schedule a Mother-Daughter Date

Think about the reasons why she might be asking to come—maybe she feels like she hasn't had the chance to spend enough time with you lately and is feeling left out. If that's the case, set aside some time for the two of you to catch up and enjoy each other's company.

Now it's your turn to weigh in:


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