Ethical Humanist Wedding Vows

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Members of Ethical Humanist societies are usually nontheistic -- they believe in human ethics without the need of a religious authority. A humanist ceremony in its basic form focuses on the couple's relationship and the fact that they are making a public declaration of their commitment to be married. However, ministers are open to couples creating original ceremonies, and even including spiritual rituals -- the officiant simply will not mention God or recite any religious blessings. Below are some basic vows.

"______, will you receive ______ as your lawfully wedded wife/husband? Will you share your life with her/him, hold your love firm, and dutifully care for her/him in all the varying circumstances of your life?"

"______, will you have ______ as your wife/husband, to live together in marriage? Will you love her/him, comfort her/him, and honor her/him, in sickness and in health, in sorrow and in joy, as long as you both shall live?"

"I, ______, choose you, ______, to be my wife/husband. I will respect you, care for you, and grow with you, through good times and hard times, as your friend, companion, and partner, giving the best that I can, to fulfill our lives together."


Want to write your own wedding vows? Make sure your officiant will accept personalized vows, and get started by asking yourselves these 20 questions.

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