The Best Wedding Vow Examples From Real Couples
Your wedding vows are the crux of your wedding day—the very reason you've gathered friends and family to come to celebrate. However, honing in on what promises you want to vow to uphold can feel like a daunting and intimidating task amid wedding planning, despite how much you adore your partner.
To help you tackle the task of writing personal vows, we've gathered the best wedding vow examples from real couples and real weddings to inspire you. Whether you want funny wedding vows, movie-inspired vows filled with notable love quotes, or are envisioning a ceremony filled with traditional religious wedding vows that include phrases like "in the presence of God/ name of God, I take you to be my wedded wife/ faithful husband for all the days of our lives," looking at sample wedding vows is a great starting point for understanding everything you need to know to craft your dream ceremony. The solemn vows these real couples proclaimed are sure to get the creative juices flowing as you set about crafting your own wedding vows to share during your wedding ceremony.
In addition to the inspiration below that can be used as a template, wedding expert and officiant Daniela VillaRamos of Once Upon a Vow encourages to-be-weds to look at their life and partnership as a source of inspiration for wedding vows if they're struggling with writer's block. "Every couple has a unique 'heartprint' so inspiration is everywhere," says VillaRamos. "If you're feeling stuck, think about the things you enjoy together. Whether it's traveling, exploring new restaurants, singing to your fave bop, or rewatching one of your favorite movies or shows, inspiration is all around you. Once you intentionally set your mind to be inspired, you'll find it!"
VillaRamos also notes that your wedding vows don't need to be written in a vacuum. While keeping your vows a secret from your partner is one route, it's also totally acceptable to collaborate on your wedding vows. "My unconventional advice is to sit down and have an open conversation about your wedding vows. You're a team, after all, and that gets solidified on your wedding day. So if the pressure to write your vows is too much to handle, we recommend intentionally creating the space to have an open conversation. Make it a date night, grab journals, and get excited. Here's where you can share and take note of the everyday gestures or annual traditions you value in your relationship, memories you treasure, the appreciation you feel for one another, the gratitude you have for the person you yourself have become throughout your journey together, and on and on. This conversation or series of conversations can help you pinpoint the promises you want to bring into your marriage and the overall flow of your vows. For some couples, this will give you the confidence and love-fueled motivation to draft your own individual vows. For others, this may lead you to write your vows together. A select few will decide to write their own vows and then reunite to merge them into a meaningful set of blended vows."
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Wedding Vows For Him
Catering your wedding to your soon-to-be spouse is a great idea. Make your partner understand why you want to marry them and spend the rest of your life with them by showing just how deeply you know them through your marriage vows.
1. Supportive Wedding Vow Example
For their wedding in Italy, James and Stefano exchanged a series of promises outlining how they planned to support each other through the various situations they may encounter in their marriage. By envisioning circumstances they anticipate will come up in their marriage, they were also able to articulate how they'll react and support each other through those circumstances.
Stefano and James: "I, Stefano/James, take you, James/Stefano, to be my husband.When you need a friend, I will be your best friend. When you need help, I will be there for you.When you need care, I will support you. When you want to try something new, I will encourage you.And when you do the same for me, I will appreciate you.But if you don't… I will forgive you. Every day. For the rest of my life."
2. Step-Dad Wedding Vow Example
If you or your partner already have children, consider including language in your wedding vows that speak to the future of your family unit, beyond just the two of you. In her wedding vows to Marquis, Neerellyn spoke about what she admires in Marquis' journey of step-fatherhood to her daughter.
Neerellyn to Marquis: Before you, I never truly believed in a "one true love." I know now that what we have transcends and is a much deeper soul connection. In you I found a partner in life, a lover, a friend, a safe place, someone I can be my ugliest and most vulnerable with. In you I found someone who supports me, who inspires me, who respects and honors me. Thank you for never making me feel like I'm too much and for looking at me with loving eyes even when we all know I'm being extra. Thank you for embracing all the parts that make me, me. Most importantly thank you for being a devoted family man, I could not have picked a better man for our kids to look up to. It was never just me, it was always the boys and me. Thank you for not shying away from the challenges of fatherhood, for loving our sons and helping me raise them. Thank you for going half on a Julia with me and being the man who is setting the bar high for the love she allows in her life one day. You are such a present dad and I could not be more grateful.
3. Emotional, Unique Wedding Vow Example
Wedding planning often brings with it challenges and hurdles that couples have to overcome. These circumstances are the perfect change to evaluate how to tackle conflict and allow those experiences to inform the vows you want to commit to, just like Alex did in her vows to Karl.
Alex to Karl: You know I started writing this months ago, but goodness how they have changed in the past 12 days. What a week we have had. The first of many hard decisions we will have to make together, the first of many challenges we will face.
With you, I know I will never have to do anything on my own. This past week has been a true testament to the man you are and the husband you will be. A drop everything because I need you, work past midnight to catch up kind of husband. An "it's never too late to do the right thing" kind of husband. A "what can I do to help you" kind of husband.
I knew you were "the one" when I realized that you truly are a better person than me. I admire you and look up to you for all the good you bring to this great big world. You are so blessed with the rare heart of a servant and your thoughtfulness touches everyone's life you are a part of. Your core is one of a kind and I am the richest girl to get to marry you, Karl Williams.
Wedding Vows For Her
As you're crafting your wedding vows, think through what makes your partner special and call attention to that through your vows, as these couples did. You can't go wrong with highlighting why you love them and how you vow to support them for the rest of the days of your life.
4. Feminist Wedding Vow Example
For her vows to Smita, Christina set forth a series of "I promise" statements that she committed to stick to throughout their marriage. Some of the vows were serious and some were more lighthearted, but together they painted a picture of how Chistina plans to be a support system to Smita moving forward.
Christina to Smita: Smita, of all the people you've met and places you've visited you ended up here—with me. It is a very powerful and humbling fact.
Through the years we have faced obstacles, some harder than others, that have helped us build the strong foundation of our relationship. It has shown me your unwavering love, constant support, and silent strength. Thank you for loving my fun, crazy, loud, Italian family, as much as I do. I promise to encourage you to follow your dreams. I promise to continue to challenge you to be the best version of yourself. I promise to make you laugh, when you're taking life too seriously. I promise to love you unconditionally. I promise to put you first and never lose our spark. I promise to never stop singing my own made-up songs, although I know you wish I would. Our journey as a family has only just begun and I can't wait to see what the future holds for us. Smita, you are the person I choose to spend forever with, as my true soulmate. I chose you in 2018, I choose you today, and I will continue choosing you forever. I love you.
5. Religious Wedding Vow Example for Wife
Many couples think that in order to have religious wedding vows, you're unable to personalize them. But that's simply not the case. For his vows to Neerellyn, Marquis talked about his faith, but found ways to personalize his words so they reflected the unique nuances of his relationship with Neerellyn.
Marquis to Neerellyn: I vow to always be your protector, and confidante, responsible for making sure your every need is met, every want is reached, and every dream realized. It's said that he who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favor from God. From this life we have built to get to this moment, this great moment in our life, looking into your beautiful eyes, I vow to always be your good thing, with love in my heart, always by your side, to my last breath. I love you.
6. Simple, Powerful Wedding Vow Example
Ronnie's wedding vows to Megan were short and sweet, but filled with vibrant emotion and poignant words. Sometimes getting right to the point may be the best way to make an impact with your wedding vows.
Ronnie to Megan: I call you 'My Megan' because you are my everything. You are my light, and you've shown me more love than I've ever known.
7. Grateful Wedding Vow Example
Annebel and Rachel used their personal wedding vows to reminisce on the experiences they've shared together while expressing gratitude to each other. They used their words to paint a vibrant picture of how their journey together has improved both of their lives.
Annebel: Rachel, I feel overwhelmingly lucky and proud to be standing beside you today. Thank you for accepting me for all that I am. Thank you for knowing that I've fought everyone that tried to put me in a dress since I could walk and allowing me to express myself the way I see fit. Thank you for loving me in a suit. Thank you for always supporting and loving me, unconditionally, I know I haven't always made that easy. I love that you love my persnickety, killer Chihuahua like she's your own. I know on that fact alone, you're going to make an amazing mother to our children someday. I vow to love you without reservation or conditions. I vow to always do my best to give more than I take, and not keep score. When I am with you, I am the best version of myself because I am utterly and unapologetically myself. I vow to continuously work on myself, and to be the wife you want and deserve.
Rachel: Annabel, I was drawn to you from the day we met. Your warm and inviting eyes and your magnetic smile softened my tough façade immediately. I remember wanting to have, and sometimes make, reasons to talk to you. To see you beam that amazing smile back at me, immediately putting me at ease and brightening my day. I love that we started out as friends. That is my favorite part. You truly saw me. You understand me, accept me, in a way no one else has, in a way that I believe no one else can. You are my best friend…. I'm so grateful for our special brand of weird. To me, it means more than just being silly. It signifies a special, profound, unfettered love for each other. It's loving each other at our most intimate, vulnerable times. It colors our tapestry with yet unnamed, exotic colors, known only to the two of us.
Modern Wedding Vows
One reason many couples eschew traditional wedding vows is that they feel like those promises don't fit with the partnership they share with their partner. VillaRamos encourages couples to remember that their partnership and priorities should be at the center of any wedding vows. "Your vows are meant for your team of two, so don't alter your personality to be more serious or poetic than you are. The best vows are the most real ones!" These fresh wedding vows are a great starting point for promises that reflect the modern partnership you and your significant other share.
8. Teamwork-Focused Wedding Vow Example
Daniela and Megan "wrote vows together of the promises we wanted to agree to making and then shared that during our ceremony. We took parts from various vows we found online and added our own touches."
Daniela: I, Daniela, take you, Megan, to be my wife, my best friend and partner. I will work to create a bond of honesty, respect, acceptance, and gratitude; one that withstands the tides of time and changes and grows along with us.
Megan: I, Megan, take you, Daniela, to be my wife, my best friend and partner. I vow to cherish and accept you for all that you are and will become, taking pride in who we are both together and individually.
Daniela: I promise to challenge you and to accept challenges from you. I promise to love you in good times and in bad. I promise to treasure you. These things I give to you now and throughout the seasons of our lives.
Megan: I promise to love you when life seems easy and when it seems hard, when our love is simple, and when it is an effort. I promise to hold you in the highest regard. These things I give to you now and throughout the seasons of our lives.
9. Wedding Vows About Beauty and Strength
In her promises to Michael, Nicole took the opportunity to highlight a few specific qualities in her partner that she especially admires. Chances are you could write a laundry list of all the characteristics you respect in your partner, but narrowing down the scope to just a few will help you vows feel more focused and poignant.
Nicole and Michael: I swear to you that I will continue to dedicate all the days of my life to filling our days with beauty and laughter. I will celebrate your spirit and all of your accomplishments, work to inspire you, and be here to remind you of your beauty and strength. You are my partner, my confidant, my other half, and I will love you for the rest of my life.
10. Personalized, Goal-Oriented Wedding Vow Example
Smita used her personal marriage vows to Christina to lay out a roadmap of their lives, emphasizing how she promises to be a support to Christina in all her life pursuits. Vision casting for the future, and what you want life to look like as newlyweds, is a great way to use your wedding vows to start married life off on a strong foot.
Smita to Christina: Christina, we started our journey over 3 years ago and if you told me then that we'd be standing here today celebrating our wedding oceanside in front of all of these people here today, I honestly never would have believed it. It is truly a dream come true.
Over the past 3 years, we have built the foundation of a loving relationship that I know will stand up to the test of time. Together, we have embarked on amazing adventures and overcome seemingly insurmountable challenges. Ultimately, we have gained the love and acceptance of all who matter most to us and the evidence surrounds us here today.
First and foremost, we both share the belief that our family is the most important thing in the world. I cannot wait to start our new family together and I promise to always put your needs and the needs of our family before my own or anyone else's.
You have always said to me that the worth of a person is determined by their kindness and the quality of their spirit. You have also shown me what unconditional love feels like. And so I promise to treat you with kindness throughout the rest of our lives together and to always love you unconditionally.
Lastly, I am so proud of how much you and I both have accomplished in our professional lives and careers over the past few years and I am certain that none of it could be possible without the invaluable support and encouragement we provide each other. As your life partner, I promise to support you in all of your personal and professional pursuits. I will always be your biggest fan cheering you on from the sidelines. I love you very much, and I cannot wait to spend the rest of my life with you.
11. Inclusive Wedding Vow Example
As a reflection of their partnership, Troy and Ian chose to write their vows together in the form of a series of promises they were mutually making as they entered marriage. Writing your vows together can be a great option if you want to ensure you're both on the same page and stepping into married life together with the same vision for the future.
Troy and Ian "wrote mutual vows together," they explain. "So instead of each of us writing our own and saying them to each other, we spent the two-and-a-half-hour drive to the venue the day before the wedding deciding what we wanted our vows to be. We had our officiant read them to us and we said 'I do' together to each one. This also allowed us both to be totally present during the ceremony, eliminating any public speaking nervousness."
Troy and Ian: We promise to always listen to hear instead of listening to respond.We promise to always lead with patience, kindness and perspective. We promise to always encourage and support each other's creative pursuits—especially when they seem bats***. We promise to cultivate a home where ideas can flourish, imagination is encouraged and diversity is celebrated.
Simple Wedding Vows
Wedding vows don't have to be verbose or over-the-too to be meaningful. Promises that get to the point succinctly may actually be more memorable. VillaRamos encourages to-be-weds to avoid writing "a dissertation on your love and retell the entirety of your journey from beginning to end. If your vows are over two minutes when practicing it out loud, it's time to edit. On your wedding day, your vows can easily take twice as long to share as it is an emotional day full of nerves and excitement." These examples are a great starting point if you don't want to pen words that stand the test of time without being too flowery.
12. Hobby-Focused Short Wedding Vow Example
In this wedding vow example, Adam spoke to the activities and hobbies that are an integral part of his relationship with Haleh during their vow exchange. Not only did this serve as a walk down memory lane, but it also cast a vision for their shared future together filled with memorable activities and excursions.
Adam to Haleh: You have the purest heart and a warm, loving soul. In every person you meet, you not only find, but brighten their inner light. With you I feel like half of an unstoppable whole, and I can't wait to take on this life with you as my best friend and lifelong partner.
I am not only looking forward, but am anxious, to continue on our many adventures and excursions together…. Exploring the best national parks on this continent, traversing the globe, playing golf and pickup field hockey, long-boarding along the beach, attending ice hockey games and concerts that range from heavy metal to Lady Gaga, and most importantly, building a home and a family with you in close proximity to a large body of water.
13. Heartfelt, Traditional Wedding Vow Example
While Tarik personalized his wedding vows to Lauren, he kept the overall feeling in line with the format of many traditional wedding vows. Personalizing wedding vows doesn't mean you have to pack your words with inside jokes—keeping a classic, traditional vibe, but adding your own spin to your promises is a great way to ensure they stand the test of time.
Tarik to Lauren: I believe in you, the person you will grow to be and the couple we will be together.
With my whole heart, I take you as my wife, acknowledging and accepting your faults and strengths, as you do mine.
I promise to be faithful and supportive and to always make our family's love and happiness my priority. I vow to have the patience that love demands, to speak when words are needed and to share in the silence when they are not. I will be yours in plenty and in want, in sickness and in health, in failure and in triumph. I will dream with you, celebrate with you and walk beside you through whatever our lives may bring. I give you my hand and my heart. As a sanctuary of warmth and peace. I pledge my love, devotion, faith and honor as I join my life to yours. You are my person—my love and my life, today and always. I thank the most high that I am yours and you're mine.
14. Traditional Wedding Vow Example
For their marriage vows, Amy and Russell both recited the same series of short vows. They started with "you are" statements highlighting characteristics of each other and then launched into "I will" statements reflecting the promises they were committing to upholding as newlyweds.
Amy and Russell: You are my lover and my teacher, you are my model and my accomplice, and you are my true counterpart. I will love you, hold you and honor you, I will respect you, encourage you and cherish you, in health and sickness, through sorrow and success, for all the days of my life.
Weddings are about true love, so why not lean into the romance of the celebration with wedding vows that are steeped in adoration. Instead of parroting sweet nothings that sound kind, but aren't necessarily meaningful, share words from the heart that describe why your love for your partner and soul mate is so deeply held. However, VillaRamos emphasizes that it's important that nearly-newlyweds "don't put so much pressure on yourself to capture the entirety of your heart and soul into your wedding vows. That's too much for anyone! Give yourself props for writing it before the wedding day instead of the day of."
15. Thoughtful, Passionate Wedding Vow Example
Aryanna's vows to Doug had three distinct sections that created a seamless flow to the words. To start, she affirmed Doug by describing who he is. From there she went into detail about why she loves him before ending with a few summary promises to recap how she wants to support him.
Aryanna to Doug: We both know how indecisive I can be, but one thing I know with complete certainty is that you are the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with.
You are my best friend, my anchor, my respite. My travel partner, my confidant and my biggest cheerleader. You are fiercely loyal, trustworthy, generous and selfless to a fault. You make me laugh, challenge me, support me and never let me forget how beautiful and amazing you think I am. You've helped me blossom into the woman that I am today, and have shown me a love that is pure, magical and everlasting.
I love how thoughtful, romantic and passionate you are with everything you do. I love the way you light up when you get a creative idea, the way your eyelashes curl and how your big brown eyes glimmer whenever you look at me. You are the love of my life and I am eternally grateful to know you.
I promise to always support your dreams, to be your forever sporting event partner and to always make the bed if I'm the last one to wake up in the morning.
16. Tender, Emotional Wedding Vow Example
In her vows to Jeffrey, Ammy, "expressed the happiness and joy Jeffrey brought into my life. From the moment we met, I have never once felt alone. Jeffrey has always held my hand through the brightest and darkest of days. Coincidentally, Jeffrey wrote in his vows how he knew from the first time that we met, there was something special about me and that he wanted to be by my side through it all. He took a vow that day to continue to always be there for me through all the highs and lows that life brings us and vowed that I would never have to worry about being alone because he would always be there for me."
Ammy: I vow never to stop asking for your warm hugs and kisses. I vow to always make weird sounds with you and laugh awkwardly. I vow to always love, support, and respect you. I am so proud to call myself your wife from this day forward. I vow to always be by your side.
Jeffrey: I vow to take care of you and support you in every way. I will be patient and trustworthy. I vow to always love you and remind you that I love you. I will always be here for you. I am so excited to see where life takes us from here. You are my world. My everything.
17. Lighthearted Wedding Vow Example
Dre and Dan kept their wedding vows lighthearted with mentions of pool parties, shopping and cleaning. A marriage isn't just about the highlights, it's also about being there for each other in the mundane and throughout your daily routine—a concept the couple reinforced with marriage vows that spoke about everyday activities.
Dre: I promise to always remember that you are indeed human. That you may sometimes make questionable decisions, decisions I don't agree with, like throwing a beach party that I didn't authorize on the one free day we had before our wedding—a day when we should be doing wedding admin together and things like, I don't know, writing our vows! But what I love about you is I know that you do these things because you care so deeply about those who are close to you and are genuinely one of the most thoughtful and considerate people I have ever known. You remind me of my mother in this way. (That and your mutual unbridled passion for shopping and [my parents' dog].) Today, I promise to show that same care and consideration for you for the rest of my life. Right now, it's the easiest thing in the world to do because I honestly love you so much and want nothing but your happiness, but even when things are difficult and it gets hard to do and our love gets more comfortable, complacent and timeworn, I will always show that same care and consideration for you.
Dan: Back in June 2013, I decided I needed one more Michelada after a night out in Downtown LA. It led me to wander around a block from Skid Row—something I later learned the guide books advise against. But what those guidebooks also don't tell you is that you could end up meeting the love of your life as a result. I met the love of my life in you Dre—you are my number one. You make me smile whenever I think of you. I promise to make you smile as much as you make me smile, even if that means I have to watch a bit less football or 'soccer.' I also promise to pretend not to be annoyed when I find giant mounds of Dre hair in the most unlikely place after one of your giant detangling sessions, or just simply finding smaller ones that have broken free on their own literally everywhere. It is a small price to pay to live with you and your fantastic barnet, as we say in the UK.
18. Timeless Wedding Vow Example
In this wedding vow example, Liz and Anna found a balance between classic, timeless vows and personalization. Liz started her vows by speaking of the early days of their relationship before then painting a picture about how she wants to grow alongside Anna in the future. Meanwhile, Anna filled her vows with a series of "I promise" statements that felt equally timeless.
Liz: Anna, I knew from the very moment I laid eyes on you that you were my forever. Someway, somehow, I was determined to make you mine. And from this day forward my heart is entirely yours.
As we continue to grow in our lives together, I promise to give you all of my words when needed, and to share in the silence when they are not, to pick you up if you are down, to love you unconditionally, to lay my bare skin on you when needed most, to care for you and our families for as long as we live, to adventure with you always, to say I love you before falling asleep each night, to be the best mom I can be as we grow a family together, and to always know in the deepest part of my soul, that when challenges arise we will always find our way back to one another.
Anna, you are my everything and this is my promise to you.
Anna: Liz, Of all the people you've met on your journey and of all the places you've been, somehow and someway, you ended up here—with me. It is the most powerful and humbling fact that I can accept. I used to think that we met by chance but now I know without a doubt that the universe put you in front of me because we were meant to spend our lives together. You have filled my life with joy and have given me a sense of peace that I have never known.You are my best friend, my biggest supporter, and the best backup singer a girl could ask for. Although today marks the start to the rest of our lives, I know it will not be enough time with you. I will not take our time together for granted. And because words cannot do it, I promise to show you, for the rest of my life, how much I love you. I promise to encourage you to follow your dreams. I promise to make you laugh when you are taking yourself too seriously. I promise to hold your hand through the good times and through the bad times. I promise to be loyal and faithful and to put you before all else. I promise to never stop making up songs for you. Although, I know you wish I would. And I promise that when we are old and gray, we will look back on our lives together and we have no regrets. From this day forward, you will never walk alone.
19. Supportive, Emotional Wedding Vow Example
"One section of my vows in particular that really got Mike and made him lose it," recalls Jane. "I've performed with my comedy troupe for over 13 years now, and I decided to borrow some advice from our experiences on stage together, which I thought seemed applicable to our marriage. After taking a few moments discussing the various things that happen before our shows and about the importance of listening, not rushing the moments, and just having fun, I shared my vows."
Jane to Mike: The last thing we do as a troupe during rehearsal is we all stand in a circle. One by one we look someone in the eyes and say, 'I believe in you.' And though we've never really defined what that means definitively, for me, I've always felt like I was looking at a good friend and telling them, 'I love you. And no matter what happens out there, I've got your back.
So, without further ado, let's remember to listen, let's try not to rush the moments and let's have a lot of fun. Michael Dailey, I believe in you.