Wedding Gown: Can I Wear a White Wedding Dress if We're Living Together?
Q: My mother says that when I moved in with my fiance I relinquished the right to wear a white wedding dress on my wedding day. Is this true?
A: In a word, no! It's not true. You're living in the era of Bridget Jones, not Hester Prynne. Once a symbol of celebration and affluence (since only a woman of means could afford to wear an easily soiled dress just once), the color white now symbolizes purity (read: virginity). That said, the majority of women these days wear a white wedding dress at their weddings regardless of the nature of their relationships. If you want to wear a white wedding dress, do it. Tell your mom that you've decided to recast the color's symbolic message to one of new beginnings: Your new life begins on your wedding day, and you begin that life with a clean slate. The key is to follow your heart and do what feels right to you.