This or That? 61 Would You Rather Questions for Couples to Get You Talking

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Would You Rather Questions for Couples
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Jamie Cuccinelli the knot writer and wedding expert
Jamie Cuccinelli
Jamie Cuccinelli the knot writer and wedding expert
Jamie Cuccinelli
Senior Editor, Sex & Relationships
  • Jamie is a Senior Editor for The Knot where she oversees all sex and relationship editorial content.
  • Before joining The Knot Worldwide, she worked with an array of digital publications that include Brides, The Zoe Report, Bustle and MyDomaine.
  • Jamie graduated with a degree in English and Media, Culture & Communications from New York University.
Updated May 29, 2024

Getting to know your partner is one of the most exciting parts of a new relationship. But since being peppered with rapid-fire, interview-like questions over dinner isn't many people's idea of a good time, may we offer a fun alternative? Would you rather questions for couples provide a unique way to get to know one another better—while likely sharing laughs while you're at it.

The concept of a game of "Would You Rather?" is simple: Pose each question to one another, and lighthearted arguments are sure to ensue over which option is the "right" answer. Would your partner rather talk to animals than know five additional foreign languages? Would you rather date someone who is always early, as opposed to someone who is always late? Discuss!

Would you rather questions for couples can be deep, silly, funny or reflective. You'll sneak in a belly laugh or two, but also learn more about your compatibility and have a chance to deepen your bond. Win-win-win. (Who doesn't love that?)

Ready to play a round of "Would You Rather?" For help curating the best would you rather questions for couples, we turned to a relationship and mental health pro: Lidziya Rubanava, LMSW, is a clinical social worker and therapist based in New York City.

In this article:

The Best Would You Rather Questions For Couples

Eager to learn more about your partner? Look to these top-tier Qs for insight, from fun "would you rather?" questions to relationship-focused "this or that?"'s.

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Relationship Would You Rather Questions for Couples

If you came here looking for ways to dive deeper into your relationship, these relationship "this or that?" questions will give you a sneak peek into what a shared future together might look like.

  • Would you rather your partner constantly be running 15 minutes late or a half hour early?
  • Would you rather have a big wedding or elope?
  • Would you rather have kids or travel the world?
  • Would you rather visit a museum or attend a concert?
  • Would you rather spend time with family or friends?
  • Would you rather live in a big house in the middle of nowhere, or in a studio apartment in a bustling city?
  • Would you rather have a large group of friends but no best friend, or only have a best friend?
  • Would you rather stay in for every date night or go out for every date night?
  • Would you rather do the cooking or the cleanup every day, forever?
  • Would you rather be a stay-at-home parent or a working parent?

Deep Would You Rather Questions For Couples

Time to go below the surface level with these deep would you rather questions.

  • Would you rather change the past or predict the future?
  • Would you rather outlive your partner or have your partner outlive you?
  • Would you rather lose your sight or all of your memories?
  • Would you rather give up caffeine or alcohol?
  • Would you rather be infamous, or forgotten completely after you die?
  • Would you rather never age mentally or physically?
  • Would you rather be 25 or 45 forever?
  • Would you rather die in 25 years with no regrets, or live another 50 but have many regrets?
  • Would you rather have more money or more time?
  • Would you rather win $100 or have your best friend win $1,000?

Flirty Would You Rather Questions For Couples

Hint, hint... These flirty would you rather questions are totally wink-worthy. This or that? Let's do both...

  • Would you rather kiss me here, or here?
  • Would you rather be the little or big spoon?
  • Would you rather receive a handwritten letter or a flirty pic?
  • Would you rather be surprised with flowers or take-out?
  • Would you rather propose or be proposed to?
  • Would you rather kiss me or hug me right now?
  • Would you rather tell someone you love them first or have them tell you?
  • Would you rather meet me for the first time again or see where we are a year from now?
  • Would you rather send a flirty text or say it in person?
  • Would you rather throw a surprise party or have one thrown for you?

Funny Would You Rather Questions For Couples

Getting to know one another is supposed to be a good time, after all! Keep things lighthearted with these funny would you rather questions for couples.

  • Would you rather wear wedding attire every day or sweatpants?
  • Would you rather never take your shoes off (even in bed and the shower), or never wear shoes again?
  • Would you rather only eat incredibly spicy or incredibly bland food for the rest of your life?
  • Would you rather only watch documentaries or reality shows for the rest of your life?
  • Would you rather go on The Bachelor or The Bachelorette, or Survivor?
  • Would you rather be the class clown or the teacher's pet?
  • Would you rather be able to travel or eat for free for the rest of your life?
  • Would you rather have everyone you know hear you singing in the shower or never sing in the shower again?
  • Would you rather have a 9 a.m. meeting every morning or a 5 p.m. meeting every afternoon?
  • Would you rather spill coffee on your shirt every time you drink it or never drink coffee again?

Romantic Would You Rather Questions For Couples

Didn't know that a simple game of "Would You Rather?" could up the ante when it comes to romance? We're happy to be the bearer of good news.

  • Would you rather vacation on the beach or in the woods?
  • Would you rather be kissed on the cheek or the lips?
  • Would you rather sleep under the stars or at a nice hotel?
  • Would you rather get a couples massage at a swanky spa, or receive a romantic massage from your partner in bed?
  • Would you rather have an elaborate wedding or a no-expense-spared honeymoon?
  • Would you rather have regularly scheduled date nights or be spontaneous?

Spicy Would You Rather Questions for Couples

Kick things up a notch with some spicy would you rather questions. (Is it getting hot in here?)

  • Would you rather have morning sex or sex before bed?
  • Would you rather be submissive or dominating?
  • Would you rather get spanked or spank your partner?
  • Would you rather be caught masturbating or having sex with a partner?
  • Would you rather never have oral sex again, or only have oral sex forever?
  • Would you rather make out in the back seat of a car, or in a dark closet?
  • Would you rather get a striptease or give a striptease?
  • Would you rather everyone in your life know what's in your bank account at all times, or all of the details of your sex life?

Juicy Would You Rather Questions for Couples

Ohhh, the good stuff! Consider these oh-so juicy would you rather questions.

  • Would you rather spend the holidays with my family or yours?
  • Would you rather tell your dirtiest secrets to your boss or your parents?
  • Would you rather sell an organ or empty out your entire bank account?
  • Would you rather someone see you naked or read all your texts?
  • Would you rather only travel to the same five-star resort for free, or be able to travel anywhere in the world but only stay in hostels?
  • Would you rather never be able to use Google again, or Instagram?
  • Would you rather I become best friends with my ex, or best friends with yours?
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