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Updated Mar 06, 202562 'How Well Do You Know Me' Questions for Couples
Does your partner really know you? Find out.
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Everyone wants to know just how well their partner knows them, right? Or maybe you just want to learn more about your partner over time. Whether a situationship turned relationship or a long-standing marriage, using "how well do you know me" questions can be a real conversation starter for emotional intimacy, to align your goals and of course, to have a bit of fun.
"Couples who understand how each other think, process information, and who know and understand their partner's true vision for life and of life tend to have better relationships, closer bonds with one another, and solve problems together easier," says Karen Stewart, PsyD, a sex and relationship therapist who recently got married (and used The Knot to plan her special day). "They're used to having deep, thoughtful interaction with each other without the threat of judgment."
Through Stewart's practice, she recommends that couples at any stage create 15–20 questions to ask your partner and use them to further get to know each other on long car rides, walks or even on your weekly date idea.
After all, incorporating "how well do you know me" questions for couples can only bring positivity (and maybe even romance!) to your relationship. Below are a few of our favorite questions to get you started.
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In this article:
- The Best 'How Well Do You Know Me' Questions
- 'How Well Do You Know Me' Questions: Funny
- 'How Well Do You Know Me' Questions: Hard
- 'How Well Do You Know Me' Questions: Friends
- 'How Well Do You Know Me' Questions: Family
- 'How Well Do You Know Me' Questions: Relationships
The Best 'How Well Do You Know Me' Questions
Sure, there are a lot of questions you could ask your partner to gauge how well you know each other, but what about the best "how well do you know me" questions to ask? "No questions should be off-limits," Stewart explains. "However, if your partner is uncomfortable answering your questions, that is also information and a good conversation to have around their discomfort of the topic."
According to her, though, you won't know until you throw some questions out there. Here are some "how well do you know me" questions couples can start with, below.
- Do I have any religious or holiday traditions?
- When was the last time I cried?
- Do I want children? Why or why not?
- If money were no object, where would I like to vacation?
- What was the fighting style of my parents? Do you recall how that affected me?
- When I am sad or angry, how can you tell?
- When I am mad, do I prefer a hug, to receive help or advice or to be listened to?
- What hurts my feelings the most?
- What is my biggest dream in life?
- What's been stopping me from creating my dreams?
'How Well Do You Know Me' Questions: Funny
Sometimes, you just have to keep things light-hearted. Enter: "How well do you know me" questions funny edition. "I love adding humor to my couples therapy sessions; it is a huge part of getting to know people," Stewart says. "While getting to know someone, it is really important to know all sides of them, especially what makes them laugh and which kinds of humor they do not appreciate!" Try out these funny questions below.
11. When was the last time I completely put my "foot in my mouth?"
12. What's the most embarrassing thing that happened to me in childhood? How did I handle it?
13. What's my favorite line from a comedy movie?
14. What's the dirtiest joke I've heard that made me laugh?
15. What kinds of jokes make me cringe or get offended?
16. What's the greatest Halloween costume I've ever worn? How did I come up with the idea?
17. What snacks would I pack for our super-long road trip?
18. What's the most bizarre thing on my bucket list that I just have to do?
19. What made me laugh so hard I peed my pants?
20. What was my favorite toy as a child?
21. Who were my favorite people to play with as a child?
22. Have I ever messed up so badly in front of people I was trying to impress?
'How Well Do You Know Me' Questions: Hard
Fun and games are, well, fun. But life isn't always just that. Sometimes, asking the hard "how well do you know me" questions or how well do you know me deep questions is just necessary (and can be good for your relationship overall).
23. Who is the most important person in my life? Why?
24. Whose death impacted me the most? How do I deal with it today?
25. Have I ever experienced depression? What do I do to pull myself out of it?
26. Do I have a plan for our future in five years, 10 years, 20 years?
27. Do I support or follow any charities?
28. Has anyone in my life ever had a grave illness? Was I a part of the care team?
29. What's my best childhood memory? How old was I?
30. What's my hardest childhood memory? What do I remember most?
31. What would I like to happen if I could make anything happen in the world?
32. If I wrote a book or a song about my life, what would it be called?
'How Well Do You Know Me' Questions: Friends
Family is important, but so are your and your partner's friends. See how well you really know each other by asking "how well do you know me" questions, friends edition, with these ideas.
33. Do I have a best friend/friends?
34. Do I have any friendships from my childhood? How early?
35. How often do I see my friends?
36. Have my previous partners been a part of my friends' lives, for instance, double dates, vacations or evenings out?
37. What criteria do I appreciate most in a friendship?
38. What makes me end a friendship?
39. What's my longest friendship?
40. What was my best day spent with a friend ever?
41. If you could describe my best friend in three words, what would they be and why?
42. How would you describe your relationship with my friends?
'How Well Do You Know Me' Questions: Family
Next up (and to some folks, the most important): "How well do you know me" family questions.
43. Tell me about my family. Do I have siblings?
44. What number child am I? How do you think that formulated who I am today?
45. Did I grow up with cousins/other family members nearby? Are we close?
46. What are my favorite holiday traditions as a family?
47. Did I attend church or follow a religion with my family? Which traditions do I like best?
48. Are my parents still married to each other?
49. How active were my grandparents in my childhood? Was that good or bad?46. What are my favorite holiday traditions as a family?
50. What family traditions do I have that you see yourself bringing forward into our own?
51. If you could describe my family structure in three words, what would they be?
52. How has my family made my life better?
'How Well Do You Know Me' Questions: Relationships
Of course, asking "how well do you know me" questions in a relationship can be fun. But remember: Everyone has different ways of remembering and communicating things. "People have very different listening styles, comprehension levels, and frankly, some people forget more than others," Stewart says. "If your partner makes a mistake on something about you that is relatively innocent, for instance, if they think your favorite color is blue and it's actually green, let it go." If you're curious, though, here are some good "how well do you know me" questions to ask about your partnership below.
53. What was my first impression of you when we met?
54. What's my love language? (Words of affirmation, acts of service, etc.)
55. Do I prefer physical affection or verbal affection more?
56. What's one small thing you do that always makes me smile?
57. When do I feel most loved by you?
58. What's my idea of a perfect date night?
59. What's something I've told you is important to me in a relationship?
60. How do I usually express my frustration or stress?
61. What's one relationship goal I've mentioned that I want to achieve with you?
62. What do I value most in our relationship?
