Wedding Rehearsal Dinner: Do I Have To Invite Out-of-Town Relatives to Rehearsal Dinner?
Q: I just found out that my three half-sisters are traveling quite a distance to come to my wedding. They are not part of the bridal party -- I've only seen each of them five times in 25 years and they are not my favorite people! They'll be in town in time for the rehearsal dinner, and I'm wondering if it would be awful if they weren't invited to the wedding rehearsal dinner. Help!
A: Technically, you don't have to invite out-of-town guests to the rehearsal -- it can be a very small, intimate party for just you two, your immediate families, and the wedding party. But this is a touchy one. Since they are family members, will they be expecting an invitation to the rehearsal dinner? Will they be offended to not be invited after they traveled all this way? Are those bad feelings they may then bring to the wedding worth it, or would you be better off just inviting them to the rehearsal dinner to be a gracious hostess, and be done with it? This is one of those situations where you have to decide which is the lesser of two evils. Consider too that if you've seen them so seldom in the past, you may have the wrong impression of them -- maybe they'll turn out to be some of your very favorite people! This decision is yours to make.