Bridal Shower: Can Guests Be Invited to Bridal Shower But Not Wedding?
Q: My friends are planning a wedding shower for me and have asked my mother and future mother-in-law for a bridal shower guest list. The problem is that we are having a small wedding, and my mom says that if you invite someone to the bridal shower you must also invite them to the wedding. Is that true?
A: It's true -- you can't expect someone to come to your shower and give you a present if you're not planning to invite them to the wedding. It would seem like they were good enough to give you a shower gift but not good enough to celebrate with you on the big day. The shower is meant to be a party for the women closest to the bride (and often her mom and the groom's mom too). All these close female friends and relatives should also be invited to the wedding.