Do I Have to Invite My Boss and Coworkers?

You may roll deep with your work wives, but handle their wedding invitations with care.
The Knot
Updated Apr 25, 2018

Not sure if your boss and coworkers should make the guest list cut? As far as we're concerned, you should never feel obligated to invite anyone to your wedding (even if they do control your paycheck). But if you're not sure how to handle the potentially awkward situation at the office, here's what to do.

Just don't invite anyone you work with.

The easiest way to avoid any drama is to not invite any coworkers at all to your wedding. That way, if anyone asks or you suspect one of your coworkers is itching for an invite, you have an easy out.

Only invite the ones you hang out with outside of work.

On the other hand, if you have coworkers or bosses you want to invite but you're worried about an awkward exchange at work with others, there are really two ways you can go.

If you consider some of your coworkers to be friends (like you hang out outside of the office and text each other about non-work things) and everyone knows it, then there should be no problem inviting just them. Just don't hand them their invites at work or make a big deal out of it so nobody's feelings get hurt (obviously, this should go without saying).

Invite all of them.

If you work on a smaller team and you're considering inviting a handful of coworkers (that you aren't particularly good friends with outside of work), then it gets trickier. In that case, you really should think of your invite list in circles. So either invite the entire team or skip them altogether.

As for your boss, invite them if you have a friendly relationship. It doesn't hurt as a thoughtful gesture, but you're certainly not required to (and there's a chance they'll RSVP no anyway).

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