How to Crush Your Brother of the Bride Speech

Make your toast one to remember by following these pieces of advice.
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Christin Perry
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Christin Perry
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Updated Sep 02, 2021

Brothers and sisters share a special bond that only grows as they get older. Whether you're her older brother or younger brother, you've probably been protective of your sister over the years. Now, she's tying the knot, and she's asked you to give a brother of the bride speech.

Maybe your speech will be in lieu of a father of the bride speech. Or, perhaps you and your sister were super close growing up so you're giving a special toast. Either way, giving a wedding speech is an honor; your sister and her new partner want to hear what you have to say, and they want you to share your thoughts with all of their guests.

Although the brother of the bride speech isn't always a common speech given on a wedding day, you can certainly squeeze in between the best man speech and any other toasts—or you could consider giving your speech at the rehearsal dinner instead of the wedding reception. Here's everything you need to know about giving a speech at your sister's wedding.

How Long Should a Brother of the Bride Speech Be?

If there's one thing that can be said about weddings, it's that they tend to follow a strict schedule. Wedding coordinators try hard to hide that from guests, but in reality, everything needs to occur within a certain time frame in order for the day to flow smoothly.

So the goal isn't to get up there and orate for 30 minutes about every memory you've ever shared with your sister. Instead, aim to make your speech last no more than 5 minutes. That should give you enough time to thank everyone you'd like to thank in your wedding toast, provide a few memories or anecdotes about your sister, and say anything that feels important to you.

How to Write a Brother of the Bride Speech

If you're stumped when it comes to speech writing and you don't know what to say in your brother of the bride speech, try breaking it into three parts: first, thank anyone you'd like, such as your sister and future brother-in-law or sister-in-law. Then, give some context about your relationship with your sister; share a sweet story or talk about the first time you met her partner. What did your sister tell you about them? What was your first impression (assuming it was favorable)? Did you know they were right for one another? And finally, wrap up your speech by providing some brotherly advice.

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Start by Giving Thanks

As the brother of the bride, you can certainly begin your speech by thanking everyone for coming. Make it personal by going a bit deeper. If you were included in a bachelor party or other event for your sister's partner, thank them and tell them you had a great time. Thank your sister and her partner for putting together a beautiful day, and thank any in-laws who traveled from far away to share in your sister's special day.

Talk About Your Sister

Now it's time to highlight the special relationship you share with your sister. Was there a time in childhood that was particularly funny or poignant? Did your sister fantasize about her wedding as a little girl? If so, share that. Don't be afraid to joke about the fact that she wanted to marry at 14 or have 10 kids. Everyone loves a bit of humor. But just remember to avoid anything your sister might view as embarrassing.

Share a Parting Thought for the Newlyweds

Finally, give your best wishes to the couple. Talk about how marriage isn't always perfect but it's the trying times that bring a couple closer together. If you know your sister and her partner both want children, talk about how you can't wait to meet their future kids. Or, share a poem or quote that's particularly moving to you.

Brother of the Bride Speech Template

Still stumped on where to begin? Consider using this simple speech example as a starting point:

Good evening ladies and gentlemen, my name is [name] and I'm [bride's name]'s brother. I'm honored to have been asked to speak to you today, and I'd like to personally welcome each and every one of you and thank you for coming.

Growing up, [sister's name] always dreamed about getting married. She must have dressed up as a bride for at least three Halloweens, if not more. She often talked about her desire to have a ton of kids, and she started babysitting for money when she was just 10 years old. Yes, 10. She's always been amazing with kids.

So when she met [partner's name], who wasn't scared off by her desire for a large family, everything just clicked. Watching them today, sitting side by side, and seeing the look in their eyes and the excitement on their faces, it's obvious they were made for each other.
[Partner's name] is her best friend, her confidante and her life partner, and for that, I'm so grateful and happy for my little sister. [Sister] and [partner], I love you and wish you both the best.

How to Give a Brother of the Bride Speech

You've written your speech. You've practiced your speech. Maybe you've rewritten it and practiced some more. Now all that's left to do is actually give the speech. Yikes!

If you find yourself feeling nervous on the big day, just remember to speak from the heart. Address your sister and her partner directly if the sea of unfamiliar faces makes you feel uneasy. And remember—a light joke can be clutch if you're nervous or forget what to say.

Brother of the Bride Speech Jokes

"Well, looks like the newlyweds couldn't find anyone else to give a speech, so they asked me."

"Hello, my name is [name], and I'm here today because I'm the favorite kid."

"I have one final piece of advice for you two lovebirds: Never stop laughing, even when the jokes are lame."

What NOT to Say in a Brother of the Bride Speech

As you prepare your wedding speech, keep in mind a few key things you should avoid saying:

Don't Share Private Details

As the brother of the bride, you've been around long enough to have gathered some dirty laundry on lots of wedding guests. But today isn't the day to air it. In your speech, avoid making suggestive or embarrassing jokes or comments about your sister, close family members or anyone else (yes, that includes the maid of honor).

Don't Overindulge in Alcohol Before Your Speech

Weddings are festive events where alcohol often flows freely. But it's your responsibility to lay off the whiskey shots before you give your speech. After you're done, it's fine to drink to the newlyweds.

Don't Upstage Other Important Guests

Although you will play an important role in your sister's special day, the father of the bride and the father of your sister's new partner are still the main men. Avoid upstaging or outdoing the father of the bride speeches.

Stay on Topic

For the most impactful brother of the bride speech, streamline your speech and practice ahead of time. That will ensure you say everything you'd like to say without rambling about unimportant details or worse—forgetting to include something that's important to you or your sister.

Ready for your big speech? Take a deep breath and relax. You got this, bro.

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