Should You Care if Your Partner Doesn't Want to Wear Their Wedding Band?

You wear yours every day, so it might feel like a personal dig.
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Sophie Ross
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Sophie Ross
Bridal Fashion and Beauty Expert
  • Sophie Ross is a Senior Copywriter at Adore Me.
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  • Sophie worked as an Associate Editor for The Knot from 2017 to 2019.
Updated May 14, 2018

If you've barely wanted to take off your engagement ring since the moment you got it, you definitely wouldn't be alone. So in the case you notice your partner has woken up, gotten ready for work and come home from the office all while not wearing their ring or wedding band, it's understandable why you might take it as a personal dig or think of it as a red flag. (But spoiler alert: It probably isn't.) Find out how to handle the touchy situation, below.

What's the root of the issue?

It might be hard to fathom—especially if you've been a jewelry wearer your entire life—but some people (aka, lots of men) just don't like or feel comfortable wearing rings because they might not be used to it. Maybe your partner has a job that requires them to work with their hands too often to viably wear a ring, or they just discovered that their allergy-prone skin type has an aversion to certain metals. Those are understandable excuses.

That said, if your partner's choice to wear it hinges solely on the fact that "Prince William doesn't wear one," you have a right to get upset.

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Don't read too much into it.

Odds are, if you married this person, you trust them enough to walk around without a ring on at all times (otherwise, you probably wouldn't have tied the knot). It's likely more about what the ring symbolizes and less about the actual piece of jewelry (that one or both of you may have spent significant money on, which is an issue that might compound the whole thing).

Either way, it probably has nothing to do with you and everything to do with your partner's personal preferences—which is fine, but only if you're okay with those preferences.

Have an open and honest conversation about it.

If it bothers you that your partner is choosing to not wear the symbol of your love while you proudly sport yours every single day, then you should sit them down and say so.

Clearly, if the ring was purchased, there was an intent to wear it, so what's caused your partner to decide not to? If they suddenly decided that the metal or design isn't suited for them, then you should discuss purchasing a new one instead.

Either way, let your feelings be known so you can arrive at a compromise. A marriage is an equal partnership, after all—and it wouldn't be fair for you to get to single-handedly wear all the bling in your relationship if you don't want to.

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