Bridal Shower: Inviting Out-of-Town Wedding Guests to Bridal Shower?

Q: I want to invite long-distance cousins (bridesmaids) and two aunts who live far away to my wedding shower. My mother thinks that is inappropriate and is only asking for a wedding gift, since I know they will be unable to attend. What would you do in this situation?

A: It's not inappropriate at all to invite them. In this case, it's the thought that counts -- you wanted them at this intimate party of close friends and relatives to celebrate your upcoming marriage. True, the shower is devoted to gifts, but it's still a nice gesture to invite all the women you want there -- even if you (and they) know full well they can't come.

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