Who Gets Invited to the Bridal Shower?

Make sure no one gets left out (and send this to whoever's planning yours).
by The Knot

If you've been given the task of planning a bridal shower—or you're simply hosting your own—lucky you! You get to curate creative décor, fun activities and delicious bites. But now for the hard part: coming up with the guest list. Regardless of the shower's theme, there's some basic etiquette to follow in order to make sure no one's missed. Find out everyone you should (and shouldn't) invite to the shower, below. 

The Bride's Closest Female Friends and Relatives

No, you don't need to invite every single female wedding guest (unless it's a particularly intimate wedding). Simply send invitations to the closest female friends and relatives of the bride—even the ones you know you can't make it, as a nice gesture. Also, if you're surprising the bride—aka the guest of honor—set aside an invite she can use as a keepsake for her wedding album instead of sending one to her right away (and spoiling the surprise). 

Close Female Relatives of the Groom

Consider inviting the close female relatives (and even friends) of the groom too, especially if his mother is hosting or helping to plan the party. Essentially, anyone who shares a close relationship with the bride should be there. Also, it's totally normal to have multiple bridal showers as well to accomodate loved ones in different states or locations. 


The Groom (If You Want)

It's not uncommon for the groom to attend the shower as well, even if it's not a co-ed (otherwise known as a "couples" or "Jack and Jill") shower for both sexes. Many women love the "ladies-only" aspects of bridal showers, but if you're a bride who wants your partner to be there, and you know he's comfortable making a cameo, make it known that he should receive an invite as well. 

No One Who's Not Invited to the Wedding

This one should go without saying, but all shower guests absolutely should be invited to the wedding to spare hurt feelings. 

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