How Should You Word Your Wedding Invitations?

The design is totally up to you, but when it comes to the wording, there are a few things that definitely need to be included.
by Amanda Black

You can have the most gorgeous wedding invitations ever, but when it comes down to it, they need to be informative. They should spell out all essential wedding info—who's getting married, who's hosting and where and when the ceremony will take place. (Everything else should go on your wedding website.) If your wedding style is more unique or modern, feel free to express that by breaking a few rules. Your wedding invitation is the first impression guests will have of your wedding, so it should sound like you.

Here's the traditional wording:

A couple of tips: If the bride's parents are hosting, it’s customary to leave off the bride's last name. But in the case of a bride having a different last name than her parents, her full name should be used. If the groom's parents are involved, the bride's last name should be included. In its simplest form, this is the standard wording template.

Mr. and Mrs. John L. Smith

request the pleasure of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Heather Marie

to

Michael Francis Jacobson

Saturday, the seventeenth of May

two thousand and nineteen

At six o’clock in the evening

Plaza Hotel

New York, New York

Reception to follow

If one set of parents is hosting:

Since you’re including the bride's parents’ names on the invitation, you don't need to list the bride's last name (unless she has a different last name than her parents). On the following line, the groom’s entire name should be written out.

Formal:

Mr. and Mrs. John L. Smith

request the pleasure of your company

at the marriage of their daughter

Heather Marie

to

Michael Francis Jacobson

Saturday, the seventeenth of May

two thousand and nineteen

at half past four in the afternoon

Casual:

John and Eliza Smith

invite you to share in their joy at the marriage of their daughter

Heather Marie

to Michael Francis Jacobson

Saturday, May 17, 2019

at 4:30 in the afternoon

If both sets of parents are jointly hosting:

List the bride's parents and groom's parents on separate lines, starting with the bride's. Since both last names are included in the greeting, you don’t need to use either the bride’s or groom's last name. Of course, the same exception we mentioned above would apply here if either the bride or groom has a different last name than their parents. In that case, list out the full bride’s or groom’s name, in addition to the full names of the parents.

Formal:

Mr. and Mrs. John L. Smith &

Mr. and Mrs. Mark Franklin Jacobson

request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their children

Heather Marie

and

Michael Francis

Saturday, the seventeenth of May

two thousand and nineteen

at half past four in the afternoon

Casual:

John and Eliza Smith

along with Mark and Sally Jacobson

invite you to share and celebrate at the marriage of their children

Heather Marie

and Michael Francis

Saturday, May 17, 2019

at 4:30 in the afternoon

If you’re hosting:

If you’re paying for the wedding yourselves, the greeting skips the host line and begins with the request line.

Formal:

The honor of your presence

is requested at the marriage of

Heather Marie Smith

to Michael Francis Jacobson

Saturday, the seventeenth of May

two thousand and nineteen

at half past four in the afternoon

Casual:

Heather Marie Smith &

Michael Francis Jacobson

invite you to share in their joy at their wedding

Saturday, May 17, 2019

at 4:30 in the afternoon

If everyone is hosting:

If everyone is paying for the wedding, the invitation begins with the bride's name, followed by the groom's name, and finally the parent's names, starting with the bride's side.

Formal:

Ms. Heather Marie Smith

and

Mr. Michael Francis Jacobson

together with their parents

Mr. and Mrs. John L. Smith &

Mr. and Mrs. Mark Franklin Jacobson

request the honor of your presence

at their wedding

Saturday, the seventeenth of May

two thousand and nineteen

at half past four in the afternoon

Casual:

Heather Marie Smith &

Michael Francis Jacobson

together with their parents

invite you to their wedding

Saturday, May 17, 2019

at 4:30 in the afternoon

If you’re a same-sex couple:

Same rules apply! The host of the celebration (read: the financier) is listed first, following their partner’s information. If the couple is hosting, names are typically listed in alphabetical order.

Formal:

Mr. and Mrs. John L. Smith

request the pleasure of your company

at the marriage of their daughter

Heather Marie

to

Jennifer Anne Davis

Saturday, the seventeenth of May

two thousand and nineteen

at half past five in the afternoon

Casual:

John and Eliza Smith

invite you to share in their joy at the marriage of their daughter

Heather Marie

to Jennifer Anne Davis

Saturday, May 17, 2019

at 5:30 in the afternoon

If one of your parents is deceased: 

You can, of course, still include the name of a deceased loved one on your wedding invitations. You can switch up the ordering of the format in order to incorporate the word "late" in front of the family member. (And remember that you have plenty of ways to honor a deceased parent during your ceremony.)

Together with their families, 

Ms. Heather Marie Smith, 

daughter of John Smith and the late Eliza Smith,

and Michael Francis Jacobson, 

son of Mr. and Mrs. Mark Franklin Jacobson,

request the honor of your presence at their marriage

Saturday, the seventeenth of May

two thousand and nineteen

At six o’clock in the evening

Plaza Hotel

New York, New York

Reception to follow

Still on the search for the perfect invites? Look here.

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