25 Birthday Wishes for Your Mother-in-Law That'll Make Her Feel Appreciated

These mother-in-law birthday messages might just get you in the running for favorite child status.
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Cathryn Haight
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Cathryn Haight
Commerce Editor
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Updated Jan 25, 2023

She helped raise the love of your life, so it's safe to say that your mother-in-law deserves some credit. For when it's time to celebrate her own special day, we've dreamed up a comprehensive list of birthday wishes for your mother-in-law (or future MIL) that cover all of the funny, heart-touching and short-and-simple sentiments you'd like to share with her. Now you can totally buy a beautiful blank card with confidence—or spruce up a store-bought card with a personal touch—and earn some brownie points with a handwritten note. Don't forget to pair your message with a thoughtful mother-in-law gift.

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What to Write in Your Mother-in-Law's Birthday Card

When writing a birthday message for your mother-in-law, first take her personality into account. If she's always breaking out the embarrassing baby pictures of your honey, go funny. If she wraps you and your spouse into a hug the first second she sees you, a touching "happy birthday" note might be the way to her heart. And if she's always got her nose in a book or a favorite film playing on television, perhaps opt for a meaningful quote from a special novel or movie to top off your birthday greeting.

You should also consider the relationship between the two of you before you begin your birthday wishes for your mother-in-law. Being kind and authentic, but not overly sentimental, is always a great go-to vibe when you're feeling unsure. But if you have a super-close bond and Sunday dinners at her house are the highlight of your week, then feel free to amp up the sweet factor.

Lastly, don't just compliment her on a trait that you admire, thank her for something meaningful and specific to make her feel appreciated: raising a great kid, watching your little ones (if you have them), passing along her super-secret family coffee cake recipe to you, etc. Keeping all of these elements in mind, your birthday card is sure to secure a prominent spot on your mother-in-law's mantle.

Funny Birthday Messages for Your Mother-in-Law

The ability to joke around with a mother-in-law is a very special thing (we can't all do it). If she's a lady who loves to laugh, get her giggling with these funny phrases to write in her birthday card. (Though, it'll be hard to compete with all of the silly stories she shares about your spouse.)

Touching Birthday Wishes for Your Mother-in-Law

You should thank your lucky stars if your mother-in-law is the type to bring over soup when you or your spouse is sick and always picks up the phone if you need marriage, parenting or even just life advice. Show her how much she means to you with one of these mother-in-law birthday wishes straight from the heart.

  • I know you're my mother-in-law, but you're also my friend.

  • Thank you for raising such an amazing [son/daughter/child]. I'm lucky to know and love you both.

  • Thank you for your kindness, your love and your cooking. Happy birthday!

  • I'm so happy I get to call such a cool, inspiring and kind woman my mother-in-law.

  • You're more like a mom than a mother-in-law. Happy birthday.

    Good Birthday Wishes From Sons-in-Law

    All your mother-in-law could ever ask for is for you to love and support her child, but a card detailing how honored you are to be her son-in-law will definitely be the icing on her birthday cake. It wouldn't hurt to throw in a compliment or two, either.

    • It's no surprise that such a beautiful and wonderful [woman/man/person] came from you. Happy birthday!

    • Thank you for giving me the love of my life.

    • Here's to another year of the best holiday meals at your house (don't tell my family).

    • I'm a lucky guy to be your son-in-law.

    • I like being your son-in-law just as much as I like being [spouse's name]'s husband. Best birthday wishes.

    Good Birthday Wishes From Daughters-in-Law

    Maybe you're just getting to know your MIL or you've been longtime pals that regularly get together sans spouse. Either way, we've got a handful of cheerful and kind mother-in-law birthday messages that'll mean so much coming from her daughter-in-law.

    • You're like a mother and a friend to me. Happy birthday!

    • I'm so lucky to have found your [son/daughter/child]—and you!

    • Thank you for the warm welcome into your family, I truly feel like a daughter to you.

    • Birthday brunch is on me. Can't wait for some mother-in-law and daughter-in-law bonding!

    • A lovely mother-in-law deserves a lovely birthday. Enjoy your celebration!

    Simple Birthday Wishes for Your Future MIL

    If you haven't officially joined the family just yet, try one of these short, sweet and simple birthday messages. They'll show your future mother-in-law that you're excited to join her family, but won't stray into overly mushy territory that might feel like too much ahead of your walk down the aisle.

    • You're someone worth celebrating. Happy birthday!

    • Enjoy some cake and a day all about you!

    • Excited to celebrate with you today.

    • I hope you have a very special birthday—we're excited to see you soon!

    • I can't thank you enough for helping with the wedding—you deserve a special birthday and a relaxing break.

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