How to Announce Your Engagement
Say it loud, say it proud: "We're engaged!" How you announce your engagement to the world is up to you—send an e-announcement, have it printed in your local newspaper or post an engagement photo with sweet caption on social media. But first, before posting or publishing anything, tell your closest loved ones—parents, siblings, grandparents, best friends—in person or over the phone. And if you’re planning to have an engagement party, you’ll want to send personal, private invites along with your announcement, since social media isn’t the place to broadcast an exclusive event.
Share on Social Media
Pick your favorite social platform and post your happy news. Share a photo of you saying “yes” or beaming with your new sparkler to help family and friends feel like they were there. Animate the announcement with a boomerang of your new ring, first kiss as to-be-weds or you two clinking champagne glasses. (Don’t forget to tag #theknotrings and your own personal wedding hashtag if you have one already!)
Send your loved ones an email with all the proposal details and your wedding website, or a customized Paperless Post invitation to your fabulous engagement party. Did you or your fiancé hire a videographer to film the proposal? Don’t forget to include the highlight reel.
Mail Printed Announcements
If you plan to mail announcements or send invites to an engagement party, call a local stationery store to have cards typeset and printed (this is also a great way to screen potential stationers for your wedding invites). The best part? You can make this as classic and formal or as quirky and humorous as you’d like.
Publish Your News in the Paper
Take the totally traditional route and submit your announcement to the local newspaper or your alumni magazine. Call or email the publications where you’d like your story to appear and find out the name of the appropriate editor or department. Ask for their writers' guidelines or a standardized form, if available. Also ask if there's a fee for publication and whether they accept pictures.
Typically, published announcements mention career details about the two of you, your parents' names and places of residence, and your educational credentials (space permitting). Obviously, only include what you'd like the world to know. If you haven't nailed down your wedding date, you can include something like, "a June wedding is planned." Definitely do list the date if you'd rather publicize it now than answer a million "So when's the big day?" questions later.
Traditionally, engagements are officially announced by someone other than the couple, unless there’s no close relative to assume the honor or the couple wants to do it themselves. When composing your announcement, feel free to use the textual variation that best reflects your taste, audience and circumstances (for example, you can choose whether or not you want to include who’s “hosting” the wedding). Below are a few standard engagement announcement wording options to get you started.
If the Bride's Parents are Hosting
Mr. and Mrs. John Doe of Los Angeles announce the engagement of their daughter Jane Annette to Jack Smith, son of David and Beth Smith of Brooklyn, New York. Ms. Doe, a graduate of Vassar College, is a professor at Barnard College in New York City. Mr. Smith graduated magna cum laude from Princeton, attended law school at New York University and works at Smith, Golden, his mother's law firm, in New York City. A June wedding is planned. (Or No date has been set for the wedding.)
If a Single Parent is Hosting
Ms. Janet Jones announces the engagement of her daughter Jane Doe to Jack Smith…. Ms. Doe is also the daughter of John Doe of San Francisco. (This line is close to the end of the announcement. Note: There's no need to mention the other biological parent if he or she wasn't involved in raising you.)
If a Remarried Parent is Hosting With a New Spouse
Ms. Janet Jones and Mr. Timothy Chapin announce the engagement of Ms. Jones's daughter Jane Doe to Jack Smith…. Ms. Doe is also the daughter of John Doe of San Francisco.
If One Parent Is Deceased
The engagement of Jane Annette Doe, daughter of Mrs. Janet Doe and the late Mr. John Doe, to Jack Smith, son of David and Beth Smith of Brooklyn, New York, is announced by the bride's mother….
If a Close Relative or Friend is Hosting
Here's an example of appropriate wording if your parents don't approve of your partner or are both deceased:
Ms. Julia Doe announces the engagement of her sister, Jane Doe, to Jack Smith, son of…. The bride is the daughter of [the late] Mr. John Doe and Ms. Janet Jones of Los Angeles.
If You're Hosting the Wedding Yourselves
Jane Doe, a professor at Barnard College, is to be married to Jack Smith, a partner at the law firm of Smith, Golden in New York City. Ms. Doe is the daughter of Mr. John Doe of San Francisco and Ms. Janet Jones of Los Angeles. Mr. Smith is the son of David and Beth Smith of Brooklyn, New York. A June wedding is planned.
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