40 Questions to Ask Your Fiancé to Strengthen Your Relationship

From the nuances of their upbringing to their go-to coffee order, you already know so much about your fiancé. The thing about relationships (and people), though, is that they're ever-evolving, and there's always something new to learn. You're marrying this person, and knowing the right questions to ask your fiancé is paramount to a healthy, thriving partnership.

We spoke with neuropsychologist Sanam Hafeez, PsyD, and Patricia Dixon, a licensed clinical psychologist, about why it's important to keep asking questions even after the question has been popped. They've also shared some of their favorite topics to dive into. From important questions to ask your fiancé before marriage to flirty Qs that'll spark fun exchanges to questions that are intimate (and maybe even a little spicy), let this roundup of varied questions guide the convo during your next hang.

In this article:

• Romantic Questions to Ask Your Fiancé
• Deep Questions to Ask Your Fiancé
• Fun Questions to Ask Your Fiancé
• Flirty Questions to Ask Your Fiancé
• Important Questions to Ask Your Fiancé

Romantic Questions to Ask Your Fiancé

Romance is the vibe right now (after all, you just got engaged). Lean into those lovey-dovey vibes with romantic and intimate questions to ask your fiancé. Here are some great rom-com-esque conversation starters.

1. What's your favorite memory from our relationship?
2. When did you first realize you were in love with me?
3. What do you think makes our relationship special compared to others?
4. How do you like to show affection, and how do you prefer to receive it?
5. If our story was turned into a movie, what do you think the cast, title and soundtrack would be like?
6. How do you imagine our wedding day feeling (versus looking)?
7. What's something I do that still gives you butterflies?
8. If you wrote me a love letter today, what do you think the first line would say?

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Deep Questions to Ask Your Fiancé

When you want to connect with your partner on a deeper level, you've got to break out the deep, soul-searching questions. "Deep questions are essential for discovering your fiancé's inner world, which helps establish a strong emotional bond and increase emotional intimacy," Hafeez says. "Through deep conversations, partners learn about each other's values and fears as well as dreams and life experiences, which leads to enhanced trust and better communication."

9. What are your top three non-negotiables in a marriage?
10. What is your biggest fear about marriage?
11. How do you envision our life together in 5, 10, and 20 years?
12. How do you feel about personal space and alone time in a relationship?
13. What do you need to feel supported and encouraged in our relationship?
14. How do you handle stress, and what can I do to help you during those times?
15. What does a truly fulfilling life look like to you, and how can we build it together?
16. What's one dream you have that you've never shared with anyone else?

Fun Questions to Ask Your Fiancé

Variety is the spice of life, so go ahead and throw some fun topics into your conversations via hypothetical questions and interesting musings. "The playful nature of fun questions helps build a relaxed environment, enabling partners to establish a stronger connection through enjoyable interactions," Hafeez says. "Laughter during these conversations helps build stronger relationships between partners while diminishing stress levels."

17. What are you most excited about once we're married?
18. If you could travel anywhere in the world right now, where would you go and why?
19. What's the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to you?
20. What's the most unusual talent or hobby you have that most people don't know about?
21. What's the strangest food combination you've ever tried?
22. What has been your favorite date we've had, and what made it special?
23. Is there something you definitely want us to experience together in our lifetime?
24. With no regard to budget or timing, what would your dream date be?

Flirty Questions to Ask Your Fiancé

A little bit of flirting is always a good idea. It can make your partner feel more intimately connected to you and even serve as a bit of foreplay. Go ahead and try out some of these spicy questions to ask your fiancé and see where it leads you (and also consider some fun relationship games that are great for building on your connection).

25. If you had to write a pickup line to win me over again, what would it be?
26. What would you say is the sexiest thing about me?
27. What's your favorite way for me to tease you?
28. In a word or two, how do you feel when I kiss you?
29. What's the ultimate turn-on I do that always gets you going?
30. What's something you've imagined doing with me that you haven't told me about yet?
31. Is there an outfit I wear that drives you crazy (in the best way)?
32. Is there anything I do that always makes your heart skip a beat?

Important Questions to Ask Your Fiancé

You're tying the knot, and it's important to talk about certain topics before marriage. "During the engagement stage, it's vital to explore foundational questions related to values and future aspirations," Dixon says. "Understanding each other's core beliefs is crucial, as it ensures you're building your life together on solid ground." Here are some of the best questions to ask your fiancé to do exactly that.

33. What does marriage mean to you?
34. What would you describe as your top five core values?
35. What are the top three reasons you want to get married?
36. What are your thoughts on caregiving during times of mental or physical illness?
37. How do you feel about spending and investing?
38. What kind of legacy do you want us to create together?
39. How do you think we can keep the spark alive in our relationship even after we have been together for a long time?
40. What does "growing old together" look like in your eyes?