Couples With the Same Sense of Humor Have Super Strong Relationships

Find someone with your sense of humor and never let them go.
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A sense of humor is one of the most sought-after traits in a life partner, and, according to extensive research led by Jeffrey Hall, PhD, associate professor of communication studies at the University of Kansas, simply having a funny bone doesn't mean you two are the perfect match—apparently being able to laugh at the same things makes your partnership even stronger.

Initially setting out to find a link between humor and intelligence, Hall conducted numerous studies over a long span of time, from which he uncovered several other findings, namely, links between humor and both romantic courtship and happy relationships.

"People say they want a sense of humour in a mate, but that's a broad concept," Hall says. "That people think you are funny or you can make a joke out of anything is not strongly related to relationship satisfaction. What is strongly related to relationship satisfaction is the humour that couples create together."

Don't fret—you don't need to be an award-winning stand-up comic, nor do you need to find funny what others do—that is, one type of comedy isn't better or worse than another. What matters is you both find similar things funny, whether it's quirky indie movies, sock puppet YouTube videos or Saturday Night Live sketches. This shared taste in humor helps create a firm foundation for your relationship. It provides a bonding point and a sense of emotional security. "If you meet someone whom you can laugh with, it might mean your future relationship is going to be fun and filled with good cheer," Hall says.

Sharing a laugh is like igniting a spark (remember the first time you lit up when your partner said something hilarious?), so if you can consistently laugh together, you'll be fanning the flame for an eternally joy-filled relationship. So laugh on, happy couples

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