Q&A: Invitation Wording: How to Handle Two Receptions?

Q: My fiance and I are Asian-American. After our 11 a.m. ceremony, we are having a Western-style reception followed by a traditional Chinese banquet later that evening. My question is: How can I fit three different events and locations on my invitations? I have read that putting the reception on the invitation is only appropriate when it is at the same location as the ceremony.

A: It's absolutely appropriate to list the reception on your ceremony invite, whether or not the party will be at the same location. In your case, put the address of the reception that will directly follow the ceremony on the bottom of the ceremony invitation, like this:Reception to follow Chevy Chase Country Club 1843 North Milwaukee AvenueWheeling, IllinoisThen include a separate card for the banquet event:Please join us fora traditional Chinese wedding banquetatHunan Square Restaurantetc.

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Q&A: Invitations: Destination Wedding Etiquette?

My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

by The Knot