Q&A: Invitations: Include Reception Entree Options?

Q: Our reception hall says that the menu choice (chicken, fish, or meat) should be given on the response card so that the count of how many of which meal can be given to them, not just the total head count. Is there an attractive way to do this? None of the response cards I have seen have listed any menu choices.

A: These days, more and more caterers are requesting this information beforehand, so brides and grooms are getting creative with their menu selection cards -- and no, it's no longer considered tacky to include it in your invites. You can have this information printed on the response card itself, or on a separate card that matches your invitations. Keep it simple (Menu Selection: Chicken__ Fish__ Beef__) or make it wacky (What would you like to eat? __Chicken, __Fish or __Meat? Check one!) -- whatever suits your style.

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Q&A: Invitations: Destination Wedding Etiquette?

My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

by The Knot