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Updated Mar 06, 2025Everything to Know About Wording and Addressing LGBTQIA+ Wedding Invitations
We offer a few examples and expert advice to get you started.
Have you wondered how to word or address LGBTQIA+ wedding invitations? The state of LGBTQIA+ weddings in the US has come far and more to-be-weds want to reflect a tone of acceptance when crafting all aspects of their celebration. If you are a queer couple yourself or have invited LGBTQIA+ guests, you might wonder exactly what is the proper invitation etiquette if you have a wedding on the horizon.
"When it comes to wording your wedding invitation and addressing your guests, my number one rule is that love and inclusivity always come first," shares NYC-based wedding planner Jove Meyer. "You want your invite to feel like a big, beautiful hug that says, 'You belong here, just as you are.' I don't believe there should be straight and gay wording; it should always be thoughtful and inclusive language, not assumptive or patriarchal with hierarchical gender structures placing men above women."
Want to create your wedding invitations in a way that's respectful to your guests and properly reflects your own relationship? Read ahead for a guide to LGBTQIA+ wedding invitation wording, then head to The Knot Invitations, where you can create your own.
LGBTQIA+ Wedding Invitation: Wording Examples | How to Address | Etiquette
LGBTQIA+ Wedding Invitation Wording
When deciding on your wedding invitation wording, understand that there is flexibility to make your wedding reflect you. "Skip the stiff, traditional language that assumes gender roles or family dynamics," Meyer says. "Instead, go with wording that reflects your vibe."
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How to Phrase a Gender Neutral Wedding Invitation
There really is no need to include any gender specifics on your wedding invitation. If you want to create a wedding invitation that does not reflect any gender, any couple, regardless of sexuality or gender expression, could use the example below.
Jack Smith & Donald Lee
joyfully invite you to celebrate their marriage
Saturday, the tenth of August
Two thousand twenty-five
at four o'clock in the afternoon
[Venue Name and Address]
Dinner, drinks & dancing to follow
Meyer adds, "Not sure how to include families? Use 'Together with their families' or 'Together with their loved ones' as it honors whoever helped raise you or supported your love, whether chosen or biological," he says. "And you don't need titles (Mr., Mrs., etc.) unless they really resonate with you or your guests."
Without parent names:
Together with their families
Avery Morgan & Jordan Lee
joyfully invite you to celebrate their marriage
Saturday, the tenth of August
Two thousand twenty-five
at four o'clock in the afternoon
[Venue Name and Address]
Dinner, drinks & dancing to follow
With parent names:
Jacqueline and Jennifer Smith
John and Mary Garcia
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their children
Avery Morgan
And
Jordan Lee
Saturday, the twenty-first of September
two thousand twenty-five
at half after four in the afternoon
at [venue name and address]
Reception to follow
How to Phrase a Lesbian Wedding Invitation
If you do want to include gender specifics for a same-sex wedding invitation, it is possible to have some wording additions. For example, if the parents are hosting, you can write the following:
Jack and Joseph Johnson
Jane and Mark Brown
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughters
Avery Morgan
And
Jordan Lee
Saturday, the twenty-first of September
two thousand twenty-five
at half after four in the afternoon
at [venue name and address]
Reception to follow
How to Phrase a Gay Wedding Invitation
If both to-be-weds identify as men, it is possible to go the gender-neutral route or use the following gay couple wedding invitation wording:
Joanne and Joshua Stevens
Linda and Chelsea Murray-Chen
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their sons
Gregory Lee
And
Andrew Lucas
Saturday, the twenty-first of September
two thousand twenty-five
at half after four in the afternoon
at [venue name and address]
Reception to follow
How to Phrase a Wedding Invitation With a Non-Binary Marrier
If one or both of the couple identifies as non-binary, it's best to stick to the script for gender-neutral language. After all, there's no need to include gender within an invitation unless you really have the desire to.
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How to Phrase a Wedding Invitation With a Transgender Marrier
If members of the couple are transgender, you can follow any script that fits the gender expression that the person identifies with or gender-neutral wording.
How to Address LGBTQIA+ Wedding Invitation
If you are wondering how to address wedding invitations to any guests who identify as LGBTQ+, you should always approach with a perspective of respect. "This is your chance to show respect and warmth without making assumptions about gender, marital status or titles," Meyer says.
How to Address a Gender-Neutral Wedding Invitation
An easy way to keep your wedding invitations gender neutral as a whole is to eliminate any titles from the invite. Just either write the full names or send the invite to a family if their children are included as well.
Gender-neutral examples:
Phoebe Jones and Tiffany Chen
Taylor & Casey Thompson
The Martin-Rose Family
How to Address a Non-Binary Guest on a Wedding Invitation
If a guest is non-binary, you may be wondering what is Mx. and other titles that could be used in addresses. Before assuming, you should check which title they prefer to go by. A few options used by gender-neutral folks are shown below.
Mx.: Gender-neutral alternative to Mr. and Mrs., typically pronounced em-ex
Ind.: Abbreviation for individual
Pr.: Abbreviation for person
Misc.: Abbreviation for miscellus, the latin word for "mixed"
Non-binary single guest example:
Mx. Jayden Garcia
Non-binary couple example:
Pr. Mica Morris and Mx. Justin Allen
Mixed gender couple example:
Ms. Sydney Blake and Ind. Peter Choi
How to Address a Same-Sex Couple on a Wedding Invitation
If you are addressing an invitation to an unmarried same-sex couple, it's best to follow the typical rules of writing out each guest's full name and title, if you choose to use them.
Example without titles:
Olivia Young and Nicole Potter
Example with titles:
Mr. Albert Patel and Dr. Matthew Arnold
How to Address a Wedding Invitation to a Married Queer Couple With the Same Last Name
If a married couple has the same last name, you can write their invitations to reflect that with or without their proper identifying titles. If you are writing out the couple's full names, there is no specific order to place them in.
Example without titles:
Abigail and Gina Young
Example with titles:
Mrs. Scarlett Davis-Taylor and Mrs. Angela Davis-Taylor
Mr. and Mr. Kim
How to Address a Wedding Invitation to a Married Queer Couple With Different Last Names
Many couples don't take each other's last names after marriage. In this case, you can write their full names and titles.
Example without titles:
Erica Wilson and Liz Moore
Example with titles:
Dr. Daniella Davidson and Ms. Patricia Boon
LGBTQIA+ Wedding Invitation Etiquette
The most important thing to remember when creating invitations while LGBTQIA+ wedding planning is to accurately reflect the correct information for the wedding, match the formality of your event, and properly acknowledge those involved in your day. If you are ever unsure about any titles to use, it's best to speak with the person with whom you want to celebrate on this special day.
"If you're not sure of someone's pronouns or how they prefer to be addressed, ask," Meyer advises. "That little bit of thoughtfulness goes a long way in creating a celebration that truly welcomes everyone. Your invitation should reflect your love and make every guest feel seen, respected and celebrated. Because weddings aren't just about tradition, they're about joy, love, intention and radical inclusion!"
Finding LGBTQIA+ wedding vendors to work with is a great way to help get a second pair of eyes on your invitations to make sure they feel inclusive. You can even easily find LGBTQIA+-identifying vendors and calligraphers near you by filtering on The Knot Vendor Marketplace if having a diverse, inclusive wedding team is a priority for you and your partner. They can guide you in the right direction to create a beautiful suite that feels reflective of your relationship and maybe even help you get guests to share their favorite queer love songs on their RSVP cards to play at the reception.
