Bachelor/Bachelorette Parties: Can We Have a Co-Ed Bachelor/Bachelorette Party?

Q: Neither my fiance nor I are interested in having a bachelor or a bachelorette party. Still, our friends want to do something for us. Would it be strange to have a joint bachelor/bachelorette party?

A: Lots of couples have Jack and Jill showers, so why not a coed bash with your best buddies? Both bachelor and bachelorette parties have gotten much tamer over the years (strippers no longer required), but if neither of you is interested in having a "last night of freedom" simply having a fun party together is a great idea. If you don't intend to get your groups together for a wild night of drinking and debauchery, you could instead opt for a dinner party, an afternoon picnic (perhaps with a game of softball), brunch… whatever strikes your fancy and seems like something the whole group would enjoy doing together. Just make sure everyone's clear on the plan (and leaves the naughty-shaped shot glasses at home).

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