How to Make Sure Your First Kiss Isn't Awkward

Because you have one chance to get it right, read our dos and don'ts.
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Sophie Ross
sophie ross the knot bridal fashion and beauty expert
Sophie Ross
Bridal Fashion and Beauty Expert
  • Sophie Ross is a Senior Copywriter at Adore Me.
  • Sophie is an experienced style and beauty writer.
  • Sophie worked as an Associate Editor for The Knot from 2017 to 2019.
Updated Aug 18, 2020

After reading your sweet, handwritten vows and saying your "I dos" in front of family and friends, you definitely don't want to ruin the moment with an awkward, uncomfortable kiss. Of course, you want that smooch to be as special as the rest of your wedding—so read this before you lock lips.

Do remember that your photographer needs to get a shot.

First and foremost, keep in mind that you can't exactly do a quick peck during your first kiss if you want an epic professional pic—you might have to kiss for slightly longer than what feels natural to make sure your photographer gets the shot. (No, that doesn't mean we're giving you clearance to fully make out in front of your guests. More on that later.)

Don't overthink it—just be yourself.

Don't do a passionate, James Bond-esque kiss if that's not what you do in real life—just remember you're kissing someone you've likely already kissed a million times. So remember those times, and just do it like that. The more you consciously think about it, the more unnatural your kiss will look.

Do a few practice runs.

Just like you'd practice your first dance, practice your first kiss too to avoid any awkward fumbles or arm movements when the real thing happens.

Don't surprise each other.

If your partner decides to do an impromptu "dip" during the kiss and you're caught off guard, who knows what could happen? Of course, it's totally fine to plan a surprise for your guests, but it's important to make sure the two of you are on the same page.

Do hug it out first.

Stop focusing so much on the kiss. Remember that normal kisses are typically preceded with an embrace—so hug it out first and foremost, and the kiss should feel totally natural after that.

Don't forget who your audience is.

In all likelihood, your wedding guest list will consist of family members, including your parents, elderly relatives and little nieces and nephews. This should go without saying, but try to keep it PG. It's your wedding day, of course, but this isn't the time for slobber or "tongue action" (sorry, we had to). At best, you risk scandalizing your poor grandmother, and at worst, your young cousin could ruin your moment by shrieking "ew!" from the second row.

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