Pastor Mike Todd & Wife Natalie Renew Wedding Vows for 10-Year Anniversary

"Our wedding day was amazing, but we did too much."
Esther Lee - Deputy Editor, The Knot
Esther Lee
Esther Lee - Deputy Editor, The Knot
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Updated Jun 22, 2020

They said, "I do" …again! Pastor Mike Todd and his wife, Pastor Natalie Todd, officially renewed their wedding vows on June 19, 2020, to mark their 10-year anniversary, in a live-stream ceremony broadcasted live on YouTube.

Todd, the lead pastor behind the Transformation Church, a megachurch in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and his wife have been seen as relationship and marriage experts with growing influence across social media. Michael is also the bestselling author behind the book, Relationship Goals.

The vow renewal ceremony began with a fairy-tale-inspired, animated movie with Disney themes throughout. The introductory video showed the couple's upbringings and how they ended up meeting as teens, which was followed by Mike pursuing Natalie as they attended the same church together in Tulsa.

"I met Natalie on December 14, 2001. We were going to a mutual friend's birthday party. She walked in and I was like, 'Who is that?'" He recalled. "High school sweethearts. It was the perfect love story."

Then, the relationship got complicated. "I started listening to people in culture…" said Michael. "We were a ratchet mess," Natalie added.

After a brief split in between their relationship as teens, the couple explored the world apart—and then they got together again. "It was progression. It was only through the lens of God. He had to become my relationship goal," said the groom. "And God had to become her relationship goal."

In 2009, the couple got engaged, and threw a wedding the year after, which wasn't necessarily a representation of what they had wanted. "It was for everyone else and not for me," they recalled. "Our wedding day was amazing but we did too much."

The couple invited the entire church to their original ceremony and the bride had only slept for 15 minutes the night before. "Like, what the heck was I thinking!" the groom said of his first wedding. "It was the epitome of doing too much." They ended up skipping the wedding reception because she was so tired in the first place.

The relationship itself, for the next 10 years, was marked by the pair welcoming three children, ending up on The NY Times bestsellers list, and reflecting back on the work they've put in together and the output that has come from their first decade of marriage. "Long conversations and fighting with tears in my eyes," said Natalie. "At the end of the day, marriage is death… to yourself. You are dying. Not in a bad way. It literally, your spouse is going to hit areas and places, but you can't fake it with your spouse."

"God uses that to sharpen each other. That's why you're a power couple. That is goals," the two added. "You're here to make each other better but that's going to come with some pressure."

"It's about progression over perfection. A lot of people have these ideas…" the groom continued. "It's in the investment that you're making in that one relationship that you gain so much… If people would stay in a relationship at 10, instead of giving up at 1… you would be so surprised by what you can do in a decade."

"Ten years ago was nothing like it is today. That's why I tell everybody, 'You can never compare your planted tree to somebody else's tree,'" Mike added. "If you keep watering that seed and rejoicing and celebrating that little progression, one day it'll be a tree. That other people will eat fruit from."

With that, the pair exchanged vows on a remote beach off Miami at sunset. The arbor was comprised of an acrylic awning decorated with lush greenery and white flowers. Candles trailed a mirrored aisle that showcased nature in its splendor at sunset. The couple's three children were involved in the vow renewal ceremony, and the groom stood in a white suit as he awaited the bride.

Prior to the nuptials, the couple teased that Natalie had found her gown at the Bryde Boutique in Tulsa. Her look was a sleeveless, form-fitting number featuring an airy cape. The pair wrote their own vows and shared their words only with each other. (This time, however, the ceremony was intimate and theirs, without the entire church and a 25-person wedding party.)

"I can see my future in your eyes, you really are my future forever," he said as he slipped a new ring on her finger. "I pray every night and I thank God."

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