Wedding Etiquette: Our Friends Are Wedding Poaching!
Q: Our engaged friends are copying our wedding -- same venue, same band, even similar colors! Many of the same guests will be there. They're totally poaching our wedding -- can I speak up?
A: In a word, no. Think about it this way: Your friends loved your wedding -- they loved it so much, they want to use some of your vendors! Be flattered; besides, guests either won't notice the resemblance, or they'll think that your friends must have admired your style. Either way, approaching the bride and groom about "poaching" will appear petty. Plus, there's no way your friends' wedding could ever be the same as yours. The fact that you and your husband are inherently different than your friends means that your wedding will be too.