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Updated Oct 14, 2024Becca Tilley and Hayley Kiyoko Are Engaged, and the Ring May Signal a New 2025 Trend
No, it's not a pear or marquise either.
Becca Tilley and Hayley Kiyoko are engaged! The pop singer and former Bachelor alum took to Instagram to share the happy news on July 10, also unveiling a glimpse at Tilley's fashion-forward rock. "My dream girl said yes to forever…," the couple captioned the joint post, which showed off their stunning engagement overlooking crystal blue water.
Tilley and Kiyoko have been together for about seven years, although their relationship hasn't always been as public as it is now. Tilley, known for being on seasons 19 and 20 of ABC's hit reality dating show, needed to take things slowly, especially since it was her first time opening up about being queer. "I tried my best to empathize with Hayley and let her know, 'I know it's hard. I never want you to feel hidden or like you're a secret, but this is my first time navigating it, and I don't want to have to do it in the public yet,'" she said in an episode of her podcast, Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley and Tanya Rad.
Kiyoko, an actor, author and singer-songwriter who has become an icon in the LGBTQ+ community, was at a different point in her coming-out journey. "When we started dating, I was ready to have a public relationship," Kiyoko recalled during the same podcast episode. "When we were navigating her experience and where she was at in her journey, that obviously shifted. But it was worth it to me because I wanted to be in a relationship with her and I never felt like she was hiding me."
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Now that their relationship is public—and they're ready to starting wedding planning—here's what we know about this famous couple's love story.
- Who is Hayley Kiyoko's fiancée? She's engaged to Bachelor alum Becca Tilley.
- How did Becca Tilley and Hayley Kiyoko meet? They met at Kiyoko's album release party for Expectations.
- Hayley Kiyoko and Becca Tilley started dating in 2018, but kept it private until May 2022.
In this article:
- All About Becca Tilley and Hayley Kiyoko's Engagement
- How Becca Tilley and Hayley Kiyoko Met
- Becca Tilley and Hayley Kiyoko's Relationship Timeline
- How the Couple Handles Life in the Spotlight
All About Becca Tilley and Hayley Kiyoko's Engagement
Hayley Kiyoko and Becca Tilley announced their engagement on July 10, 2025. Kiyoko popped the question on a beautiful rugged cliffside overlooking crystal blue water. Even more dazzling than the view, though, was Tilley's ring. Kiyoko presented her with an elongated cushion-shaped diamond set on a thin gold band with a hidden halo, designed by Ring Concierge.
"Designing Becca's dream ring with Hayley was such a full circle moment," says the brand's founder and CEO Nicole Wegman. "I've known Becca for years, so when Hayley came to us, it felt especially meaningful to help her design the perfect ring, one that truly captured their love story. We sourced a stunning elongated cushion for Becca and set it in a timeless cathedral setting with our signature Whisper Thin band and hidden halo."
Photo: Courtesy of Ring Concierge
Tilley's non-traditional sparkler could be the sign of a new engagement ring trend on the horizon. While fancy-cut shapes like pears and marquises have taken center stage in 2025, cushions could also be on the verge of a moment too. According to The Knot 2024 Jewelry and Engagement Study, cushions made up 6% of all engagement rings last year. That's just one percentage lower than pears (which made up 7% of all rings) and one higher than marquises (which made up 5%). Considering our data shows that rounds—which have historically been the most popular engagement ring shape—continue to decline in popularity year over year, Tilley's engagement ring is a clear sign that fresh new shapes may begin to diversity the landscape.
How Becca Tilley and Hayley Kiyoko Met
On May 21, 2022, Kiyoko posted a series of adorable photos of her and Tilley, the first being from the night they met. In the caption, Kiyoko explained that they met at her Expectations album release party four years prior: "This photo is from the first night we met at my Expectations album release party, we took this picture after 5 minutes. Her shirt said 'no time for romance'…..it's been 4 years. I guess she had some time 🤷♀️."
Becca Tilley and Hayley Kiyoko's Relationship Timeline
April 2018: Hayley Kiyoko and Becca Tilley first meet
The couple first met at Kiyoko's Expectations album release party in April 2018.
August 2018: Becca Tilley says she's dating again
In an interview with People, Tilley revealed that she was dating again, but that she planned to keep her love life private. "My last relationship was pretty public and out there and I've kind of got to the point where I'm like, 'Am I able to keep anything to myself?' So in this process of dating and going through that again I've been trying to keep it more low-key…it's been tricky, it's a tough world out there, the dating world" Tilley said.
May 2022: Hayley Kiyoko and Becca Tilley confirm their relationship
On May 19, 2022, Kiyoko hosted a release party for her new single, "For The Girls," (Tilley makes an appearance in the music video). While on stage, Kiyoko requested that Tilley join her by her side. She then gave Tilley a rose and the two shared hugs and kisses publicly, for the first time. Kiyoko later posted a video that captured the moment on her IG account.
"It feels really good," Kiyoko told People. "I mean, we lived a very normal life. It just wasn't on social media. We lived very open. And we've been together for four years, but now it's on social media. And now we get to share with the world. It's just been really nice — we've had so much love and support." The next day, Tilley took to Instagram and posted a cute reel of the couple. She paired the video with a caption that says: "Hard to say if this is a hard or soft launch, but it is a launch ❤️ #95p."
January 15, 2024: The couple vacay in Hawaii
Tilley posted a series of gorgeous photos of her and Kiyoko on a trip together in Hawaii. They stayed at Rosewood, a picturesque resort in Kona Village.
July 10, 2025: Becca Tilley and Hayley Kiyoko announce their engagement
After nearly eight years together, Kiyoko popped the question in 2025. She presented Tilley with a dazzling cushion-shaped engagement ring designed by Ring Concierge.
How the Couple Handles Life in the Spotlight
For the first part of their relationship, Becca Tilley and Hayley Kiyoko handled their life in the spotlight privately. Because coming out as queer was brand new for Tilley, they decided to take things slowly. Through understanding and patience, the couple was able to navigate their relationship being in the public eye once they were both ready to do so.
"I was never a secret, we just kept our relationship private. It took me a second to get used to, and then I fell in love with it, because it was like, 'This is ours, and how cool is this, that we get to just share this, and grow it and really build a foundation?'" Kiyoko recalled in an episode of Tilley's podcast from September 2022.
Tilley also discussed their early relationship during the episode, providing her perspective on keeping things low key—noting her experience dating The Bachelorette alum Robert Graham. "I had been in a public relationship with Robert and I remember when it was time to break up, it was like I'm letting people down. I was trying to explain that to her, that I don't want that pressure, especially on top of navigating this for the first time," Tilley said. "By the time we went public, I felt so secure in who I am, and so secure in our relationship and that we were on the same page. I was so ready to share with people."
Kiyoko admitted that the idea of keeping their relationship secret had "triggered" her at first, but she came around to see Tilley's side of things. "It initially triggered all these traumas, but I also had to be like, 'That's not Becca. That's not our situation and I need to respect her journey in feeling comfortable in wherever she's at,'" she said.
In a May 2023 interview with People, Kiyoko elaborated on her thoughts about their relationship. "I realized that we're all on so many different parts of our [coming out] journeys," Kiyoko recalled. "Just because we're in two different places in our journey doesn't mean that we can't still coexist and love each other and have an incredible relationship until she's ready to share that with everyone."
"That doesn't mean that they don't want to be with you and that they don't love you and that they're not going to show up for you," Kiyoko said. "I've been so grateful for our relationship and our journey, and our decision to keep our relationship private for so long. I also love being able to share our relationship as well."
