What's Your Wedding Style: 10 Questions To Ask

Chances are you have some vision of what your wedding will be like even if you don’t have every last detail planned just yet. Now it’s time to get on the same page as your fiancé, organize those thoughts and put an action plan in place.
by Simone Hill
Colorful tented wedding reception decor
photo by Justin & Mary

Sit down with your partner and answer these questions together (trust us, there's really no better way to ensure you're on the same page). Once you've agreed on all of the answers below, you'll have a much better idea of what venue to choose, how to budget and how to make smaller detail decisions too. PS: If you prefer to write in your answers, there's a printable version below!

1. What adjectives describe your wedding? (Choose as many or as few as you want, or come up with your own!)

Some examples: grand, formal, refined, elegant, romantic, classic, glamorous, modern, vintage, relaxed, ethnic, intimate, casual, festive, fun, offbeat, rustic, beachy, destination, seasonal, religious

2. Where do you want to have your wedding?

  • Where you live
  • Where your parents live
  • Where your fiancé's family lives
  • Somewhere far away (destination wedding)

3. What's the ideal size for your wedding?

  • Intimate (<100)>
  • Average (100 to 200)
  • Large (200+)

4. What's the ideal season for your wedding? (If you have specific dates in mind, jot them down.)

5. What's the ideal time of day you'd like to hold your ceremony?

  • Sunrise
  • Midday
  • Sunset
  • Evening
  • Late-night

6. What's your favorite type of color palette? (Check all that apply.)

  • Bright and bold
  • Rich jewel tones
  • Earth tones
  • All (or mostly) white
  • Soft pastels
  • Citrus colors
  • Black with an accent
  • Metallics/neutrals
  • Seasonal colors

7. What parties do you need to plan beyond the reception? (Check all that apply.)

  • Engagement party
  • Bridesmaid luncheon
  • Welcome party
  • Rehearsal dinner
  • After-party
  • Postwedding brunch

8. What are your priorities (aka your must-haves) for your reception? (Rank these from 1 to 10.)

  • Time of year/day of week
  • Officiant or ceremony location
  • Guest list (big family, large invite list)
  • Food and drink
  • Music (band and/or DJ)
  • Reception setting (proximity or type)
  • Ambience (flowers and décor)
  • Mementos (photo and video)
  • Paper elements (invitations and paper details like escort cards)
  • Fashion (designer wedding dress and bridesmaid dresses)

9. Whose opinions really matter to you when it comes to planning your wedding day? (Check all that apply; asterisk * who has the final word.)

  • You as a couple
  • Friends and attendants
  • Your parents
  • His/her parents

10. Who's going to help you plan your wedding? (Check all that apply; asterisk* who is in charge.)

  • You
  • Him/her
  • Your parents
  • His/her parents
  • A wedding coordinator
  • Friends and attendants

Print out a hard copy of this worksheet to keep with your wedding binder!

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