5 Ways to End Up With an Engagement Ring You Absolutely Love

There's no need to keep your dream ring a secret.
by Maggie Seaver
Couple newly engaged
Rachel Red Photography

Do you have a favorite engagement ring style—or, more specifically, an exact ring you have your eye on? You don’t have to keep it to yourself. If you know there’s a proposal on the way, and that your partner might be struggling to guess what you love, why keep them guessing? Well, for the surprise, yes (we totally get that)—but it could be worth at least dropping a few hints.

1. Give Them Visuals

Share your favorite jewelry designer’s Instagram account, send them pics of your celeb icon’s sparkler (or the link to the exact ring you want) or simply tear out magazine pages. You could stay coy and clever with sneaky hints, like a note in their wallet or a website “accidentally” left open on their laptop. But there’s no need to play the wink-wink, nudge-nudge game if you’re both straight shooters. Nothing wrong with being up front about your style!

2. Look Together

Every couple's different. The idea of shopping for rings together might make traditionalists gasp—but the truth is, there’s no better way to find the perfect ring than going in as a team. For the best of both worlds, head to a jeweler to get the lay of the land. Try on a variety of styles to learn both what you love and what you don’t. Then keep the surprise element by letting your partner return on their own to buy it and choose the right time to propose.


3. Have a Loved One Tag Along

Ring shopping is hard. There—we said it. To make it less of a guessing your game, your partner should absolutely consult someone who knows you to a T. Choosing a sparkler will be way easier if a sibling, parent or best friend comes along for guidance.

4. Drop a Few Hints, Then Have Some Faith

Make your favorite (and least favorite) ring elements known, then let your partner surprise you with their take on it. Sometimes, all they need are a few parameters to steer them in the right direction. This might not be the best option for type-A folks (you know who you are), but it’s a nice way to help them out and still be surprised.

5. Design It Together

Feeling particular? You can always dream up a new ring from scratch. Once you’ve researched everything from stones and settings to band embellishments and widths, find a jeweler in your price range to make the ring in your head a reality. Besides resulting in a stunning engagement ring, it’ll be a super-meaningful couple’s project you two can look back on forever.

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