How Much You Should Spend on an Engagement Ring
Ready to put a ring on it? When you’re ready to take your commitment to the next level, you’ll want to make sure to get it right with the perfect ring and an amazing, heartfelt proposal. After all, this is the moment she’s been dreaming of since she was a little girl. At first glance, buying an engagement ring may not seem all that difficult. Simply find a jewelry store and remember to bring your wallet, right? But as you stare at the rows of rings in different shapes, sizes and prices (and don’t even get us started on the 4Cs!), you may find that a little research goes a long way when it comes to choosing and deciding how much to spend on an engagement ring. Here, we’ll take a look at the average engagement ring cost in 2016, cut through the myths surrounding how much to spend on an engagement ring, and highlight the factors to consider when selecting the best ring for your partner and your budget.
In this article:
- Average Engagement Ring Cost
- “Rules” for How Much to Spend on Engagement Ring
- How Much to Spend on Engagement Ring
- How to Save Money on Engagement Ring
- How to Buy Engagement Ring from an Online Diamond Retailer
One thing’s for sure—diamonds aren’t getting any cheaper! According to The Knot’s annual Real Weddings Study, the average cost of an engagement ring is at an all-time high in 2016, clocking in at $6,163. That’s roughly 3% higher than the prior year, and 21% higher than just five years ago, with an average cost of $5,095 in 2011.
With these double-digit increases in engagement ring prices, how do you come up with an amount to spend on the engagement ring for your significant other? Unfortunately, the answer is both multi-faceted and highly subjective. The truth is, there is no “right” answer, but that doesn’t mean you need to go into major debt for the ring of her dreams. Let’s take a look at some of the myths you’re sure to run into as you decide how much to spend on an engagement ring.
One/Two/Three month’s salary rule: You’ve probably heard the “one month’s salary” rule, which indicates that you should spend one month’s gross income on an engagement ring. In recent years, this silly notion has been trending upward, to two and even three month’s salary. Following the three months rule, if your annual income is $150K, you should spend $37,500 on an engagement ring. Just…no.
Few people realize that this “guideline” began as a marketing initiative that diamond marketers used to enhance sales around the start of WW2. It’s highly unrealistic these days, since it considers gross income rather than net, and doesn’t look at debt load (at an all-time high for young adults due to student loans). Despite what the jewelry stores may want you to spend, it’s never a good feeling to spend the first several years of your marriage paying off the engagement ring, so feel free to toss out this “rule”!
Engagement ring calculator: From downright silly to only marginally helpful, engagement ring calculators attempt to help you decide how much to spend on an engagement ring by gathering information about your income, lifestyle, and debt-to-asset ratio. And of course, there’s one that wants to know how attractive your significant other is in order to make its determination. Are you rolling your eyes like we are? If you’d like to use an engagement ring calculator to determine a ballpark budget, go right ahead, but be sure to steer clear of the hokey versions. Better yet, keep reading for some helpful (and legit!) tips to figure out how much should you spend on an engagement ring.
Shannon Delaney, director of communications for online diamond retailer James Allen, recommends that every person looking to purchase an engagement ring develop a plan of action that begins with a budget. He suggests, “The best place to start when you're beginning this process is to set a budget. This will guide all of your decisions going forward, and it's important to have a handle on how much you're looking to spend. From there, we recommend thinking about priorities—are you looking for a high-quality diamond? Are you willing to sacrifice a bit on quality in order to make it a larger diamond? Are you planning for a simple band which will be cheaper, or something with a lot of smaller diamonds that will take more of your budget?”
In keeping with this advice, here are some factors you’ll want to consider as you determine how much to spend on an engagement ring:
- Financial Situation. Whether you’ve saved for a down payment or plan to finance the entire cost of the ring, figure out what you’re comfortable with if you’ll have monthly payments going forward. Think about your current bills and your current income, and determine whether either will change (for better or worse!) in the foreseeable future.
- Partner’s Expectations. By now you should have some idea of what type of engagement ring your significant other is dreaming of, but if you don’t, now’s the time to find out! Your main goal is to purchase a ring that she’ll love and feel proud of, regardless of the price tag. You could ask your partner outright for ring options, or go “window shopping” together to figure out what she really wants. If you want your proposal to be a complete surprise, consider asking her friends, or check around for hints she may be leaving you; has she mentioned a friend’s beautiful new sparkler? Are there magazines laying around that “happen” to be open to a page with a picture of a ring? Has she created a Hint page on The Knot? Consider her individual style, along with gifts you’ve given in the past that she’s enjoyed.
- Meaningfulness of Ring. In most cases, a well thought out ring that speaks to her individual personality will be much more meaningful than the biggest ring you can find that maxes out several credit cards. Got a family heirloom on your hands? Perhaps your partner would prefer the heirloom over a ring at any price since it’s so special to you. Or maybe she’d like to break with tradition and skip a diamond altogether.
When you’re finally ready to whip out your wallet, you’ll want to be sure you’re getting the biggest bang for your buck.
- Shop online. Delaney advocates shopping online in order to ensure you’re getting a good price and product. “Go with an online retailer like James Allen. The total savings come in at 30–50% versus a regular store. Also, thanks to the tremendous selection, you can ensure that you get exactly the diamond and ring that suits you and your budget and not be pressured into something the store has in their jewelry case.” Shopping online not only offers substantial savings on the engagement ring cost, but it also allows you to customize the ring, ensuring your partner gets exactly what she wants. See below for additional tips on buying an engagement ring online.
- Give up a fraction of carat size. According to Shannon Delaney, “go with an under-size diamond. These are diamonds whose carat weights are slightly below traditional cut-off points. For example, a 0.97 carat diamond is identical to a 1.0-carat diamond to the naked eye, but has a much smaller price tag.”
- Go big on cut but sacrifice on color and inclusions. Learn the 4Cs of diamonds, outlined here. The cut of the diamond is one you won’t want to sacrifice on, since a well-cut diamond will shine brilliantly. According to the American Gem Society, which rates the cut of a diamond on a scale from 0 (ideal) to 10 (poor), “If you compare a well-cut small diamond side-by-side with a slightly larger diamond of lesser cut quality, the smaller diamond may look larger to the naked eye.” So opt for the best cut you can afford, but maybe skimp a bit on clarity and color if you need; slight inclusions (or flaws) and faint coloration will not be visible just by looking at the diamond, and will result in substantial savings.
- Skip the solitaire. Purchase a ring that’s made of several smaller diamonds rather than a solitaire. This is a fantastic way to find a stunning ring without spending that three month’s salary we talked about. And you’re in luck if you go this route—the halo ring, a setting that encircles a center gemstone is totally on trend right now, and it makes even a small center diamond look stunning (and huge!).
Yes, it’s possible to buy an engagement ring online, where the average engagement ring cost is much lower. Online diamond retailers are a great option, especially if you’re a budget-conscious shopper. The convenience and lower price can’t be beat, but there are risks. It’s important to recognize the difference between bogus diamond websites and those of professional jewelers. Tom Shane, CEO of Shane Co., and customer service representatives at reputable retailers should be more than happy to disclose this information.
Note that despite the lower engagement ring prices, you’ll want to do your research before purchasing an engagement ring from an online retailer. Make sure you fully understand the company’s payment and shipping methods, and the return policy. It’s also a good idea to read through the reviews on the company’s website. Finally, requesting certification on any diamond is always a good idea. There are a number of ways to verify the authenticity of a diamond, like GIA’s Report Check, and customer service representatives at reputable retailers should be more than happy to disclose this information.