Q&A: Save-the-Dates: When to Send Save the Date Cards?

Q: I'm inviting 200 guests to my wedding. The majority of them are local; but roughly 15 percent are from other states. Should I send invitations to the out-of-town guests separately? Or should I send the whole bunch at the same time? And should I send save-the-date cards to out-of-towners? I've had so many different responses to this question; I'd appreciate your input.

A: There's no reason to have two different invite-sending dates, especially if only 15 percent of your guests are from out of state. Send your out-of-town guests save-the-date cards four to six months before the wedding so they can plan accordingly, and then send all your invites (local and out-of-towners) at least eight weeks prior to your wedding date.

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Q&A: Invitations: Destination Wedding Etiquette?

My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

by The Knot