Here's What to Write in a Bridesmaid Proposal Card (Your Friends Will Say Yes!)

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Updated Dec 19, 2023

Calling all to-be-weds! You may be engaged, but that doesn't mean the tough questions are over quite yet. If you and your partner are planning to have a wedding party, you'll also want to "propose" to your crew. When it comes to what to write in a bridesmaid proposal card, it's a lot like asking someone to spend their life with you—you'll want to be sweet, sincere and just a bit sentimental. That being said, you can feel free to cater your bridesmaid proposal cards to your personality and that of your group of besties. Whether you're known as the sappy friend who's always in their feels or are notorious for your dirty sense of humor, your bridesmaid proposal card message can follow suit and be packed with personality. Not sure where to start? It's going to be fine! Below, we're diving into exactly what to say in a bridesmaid proposal card, as well as showcasing several examples you can steal and make your own. Don't worry, we won't tell.

Bridesmaid Proposal Card Writing Template

There are endless ways to ask your besties to be a part of your wedding party, from an intimate conversation, to a bridesmaid proposal box, to a brunch bash and everything in between. If you choose to write them a letter or a bridesmaid proposal card, what it includes is totally up to you. That being said, there are a few general guidelines to follow that will help you convey your ask with all the emotion and reverence it deserves. After all, this is your dream wedding and your closest pals—this is a big deal, people. Here's what to write in a bridesmaid proposal card:

The Greeting

Every card or letter, no matter how long, should start with a greeting. Whether you want to keep things formal and sophisticated or address your childhood bestie by her embarrassing decades-old nickname, how you kick off your bridesmaid proposal card message will set the tone for the rest of your note. At the start, you can also nod to the meaning behind the card. Chances are, your bridesmaids probably have a sneaking suspicion that they'll be included in your big day, but it doesn't hurt to kick things off with a hint at what's to come.

A Smidge of Sentiment

Weddings are emotional, not just for you and your partner, but for everyone in your lives who cares about you and has witnessed your amazing love story. Even if you and your friends prefer to keep things lighthearted, a moment as monumental as asking your friends to be in your wedding party deserves a bit of sentiment. Before you get to the big ask, feel free to take a trip down memory lane and call to mind a few hallmark moments from your friendship. Whether that means recounting the time she stuck by you through your parents' divorce or the many big life changes you've walked through together, a smidge of emotion will do your bridesmaid proposal card message well.

The Ask

Your moment is here! The time has come for you to ask your friend to be your bridesmaid—and yes, it can be as simple as saying just that. When it comes to what to write in a bridesmaid proposal card, it doesn't get more straightforward than, "Will you be my bridesmaid?" in your card wording. You can always add some additional "fluff" to your question and tell your friend that you can't imagine taking this big step without them (which is true!). Either way, though, you should make sure to ask them to join your wedding party outright, so there's never any question about their inclusion and role in your day.

A Look into the Excitement

Agreeing to be in your wedding party is the start of a very fun season of life for both you and your bridesmaids. Now that their participation is officially cemented, it's time to give them a peek at all the exciting things to come, from the wedding shower and bachelorette party to the weekend-long destination wedding where they'll stand by your side.

Bridesmaid Proposal Card Wording Examples

Whether you've already come up with the perfect bridesmaid proposal ideas for your besties or you're still workshopping what to include in their gift boxes, you can consider what to write in the bridesmaid proposal card sorted. Below, we're outlining six different bridesmaid proposal card examples you can work off of when writing your cards, whether you're addressing your sister, cousin, childhood best friend or future sister-in-law. After that, all you'll have to worry about is picking a trendy bridesmaid dress everyone will love.

Bridesmaid Proposal Card Message: Friend


I can't believe I'm (finally!) writing you this card! If there's one person who has been as excited for Jess to pop the question as I have, it's you. I can't thank you enough for all the support you've given us both over the course of our relationship. From debriefing after our very first date (I still remember the amazing text message you helped me draft!) to being one of the first people we FaceTimed with the news, you're the perfect third wheel for our relationship—and we wouldn't trade you for the world.

There's just no way I can walk down that aisle (or find a fashionable wedding dress!) without you. Will you be my bridesmaid? Please say yes because we have SO much fun stuff to start planning. Two words for you: Cabo bachelorette.

Love always,


Bridesmaid Proposal Card Message: Sister


It took me a while to realize just how lucky I got having you for a sister. While blood makes us family, I am so grateful that time and experience made us best friends. Every important moment in my life, you've been there on the sidelines cheering me on and supporting me endlessly. While I know I haven't always been the easiest little sister to deal with (I'm still sorry for ruining your favorite sneakers in 7th grade…), I hope I've given you even a fraction of the love and happiness you've brought me.

Marrying Mika isn't just something that'll bring joy to my life—it's something I'm hopeful will bring joy to yours, too. You always said you wanted a brother! I'd love nothing more than to have you by my side as we become husband and wife. Will you be my bridesmaid? I couldn't do it without you!

Forever your sis,


Bridesmaid Proposal Card Message: Cousin


Your favorite codependent cousin here! While you probably have a sneaking suspicion about what's to come (I did have you clear your calendar a year in advance, after all), I thought I'd make things official and woo you with this gift. Having you as not only my cousin, but one of my closest friends has been the gift of my lifetime. Growing up together has been such an adventure and I know the next stage of our lives will bring just as many fun memories and laughs as our first 28 years together.

When it comes to (finally!) making it official with Neal, I couldn't picture standing up at that altar without you by my side. I'm going to need you to help me tamp down those nerves and keep the champagne flowing—two things you've always been ace at. Will you be my bridesmaid?

I love you!


Bridesmaid Proposal Card Message: Future Sister-in-Law


I joke about it often, but believe me when I say this: One of the best things about my relationship with Dan is having you in my life. From the moment he introduced us, I felt a special connection to you and I'm so thrilled that our friendship has grown into what it is over the years. You have been the most incredible support system to us both and I know we wouldn't be half the couple we are without your love and guidance.

I hope that as we officially become family, we can add one more amazing memory to that growing list. Will you be my bridesmaid? Our wedding party would be incomplete without you standing up there at the altar and I can't wait to celebrate not only becoming Dan's wife, but becoming your sister.

With love,


Junior Bridesmaid Proposal Card Message


I love you little lady! Nothing makes me happier than being your auntie and watching you grow up into such a smart, beautiful and hilarious girl—I think you may even be funnier than Uncle Mike! Our wedding is going to be loads of fun, but I think it will be even better with you as a part of it. I would love it if you would stand by my side on our big day and act as a junior bridesmaid—pretty dress and all! I can't wait to see how beautiful you are going to look!

Love you lots!

Auntie Liz

Maid of Honor Proposal Card Message

To my (other) soulmate,

Chances are you probably already know why I'm writing you this card, but I couldn't pass up a chance to let you know just how much you mean to me. From the moment we met in second grade (yikes, we're old!), I knew you were meant to be in my life. You've been there for me through it all, from bad first dates and self-cut bangs (why?) to meeting Ainsley and kicking off the next chapter of my life. Simply put, my wedding day would be incomplete without you. Will you do me the honor of being my maid of honor?

I can't wait to celebrate all of these new firsts with you by my side—and get you up on the bar during my bachelorette party. You still owe me your rendition of "Coyote Ugly!"

Love you endlessly,


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