Wedding Rehearsal Dinner: Are Rehearsal Dinner Invitations Necessary?

Q: Is it necessary to send out formal invitations for the wedding rehearsal dinner or can it be done by word of mouth? We are trying to cut costs and think this may be a good way to do that.

A: Unless your rehearsal dinner will be as big and formal as your wedding reception, you don't have to send out formal, engraved invitations. If the crowd will be small (just you two, your families, and the wedding party), you can absolutely invite everyone and give them details by word of mouth. If you're also inviting out-of-town guests, you might want to send a written invitation so you won't be bombarded with last-minute calls because people forgot where and when the party is. If you don't want to spend a lot on custom-made invites, create your own in a nice font on computer paper, or buy ready-made invites from a party store.

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Q&A: Invitations: Destination Wedding Etiquette?

My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

by The Knot