7 Bridesmaid Myths, Debunked

A lot of the things you've heard about being a bridesmaid are false, but some of them are definitely true.
sophie ross the knot bridal fashion and beauty expert
Sophie Ross
sophie ross the knot bridal fashion and beauty expert
Sophie Ross
Bridal Fashion and Beauty Expert
  • Sophie Ross is a Senior Copywriter at Adore Me.
  • Sophie is an experienced style and beauty writer.
  • Sophie worked as an Associate Editor for The Knot from 2017 to 2019.

If it's your first rodeo being a bridesmaid, you probably have some preconceived notions regarding your duties. Whether it's being forced to bend to a bridezilla's every whim or having to wear an unflattering dress to better complement her (which is straight-up ridiculous, by the way), we're debunking the major bridesmaid myths below. Find out what's false (and what's actually true) about being a bridesmaid.

1. It's All About the Bride: True

Unfortunately, this is mostly true. It's her day, and any semblance of control you might feel at the beginning will likely be long gone by the time the actual ceremony rolls around. Oftentimes, brides totally forget you actually have a life outside of helping her plan her nuptials. For the sake of your friendship, let it go and roll with it.

2. The Bride Wants to Sabotage Your Appearance: False

One of the longest enduring myths about bridesmaids is false, false, false. Besides the fact that it makes zero sense (why would your best friend want to intentionally make you look bad?), the truth is, the opposite is usually true. On her wedding day, a bride will undoubtedly choose flattering dresses and color schemes because, well, she typically wants everything to be perfect that day, including you. But…

3. You'll Never Wear the Dress Again: True

...that still doesn't mean you'll want to wear the dress again. Whether it's long or short, strapless or long-sleeve, you'll probably end up wanting to donate it to charity or keep it in the "maybe-for-a-future-theme-party" section of your closet.

4. There's a Certain Number of Bridesmaids the Bride Should Have: False

These days, there's no hard-and-fast rule on the number of bridesmaids in a wedding party. If the bride wants a smaller bridal party for logistical or aesthetic reasons, she might leave good friends out of the bridal party and include them in other capacities and activities (like the bachelorette party and bridal shower). It's totally up to her.

5. There Will Be Drama: True

It's simply inevitable. You'll be spending a lot of time planning things with the same group of people, dealing with stressful situations and butting heads in the process. But at the same token, it'll be a bonding experience, especially if you went into it not knowing some of the other bridesmaids.

6. The Bachelorette Party Needs to Be Wild: False

Speaking of bonding experiences, it's true that the bachelorette party will be tons of fun. But that doesn't mean it needs to be boozy, dirty and crazy. Especially if you've all grown out of your "rowdy" phases, it's common to keep a bachelorette party relatively low key (by bachelorette party standards). As long as the bride is relaxed and happy spending quality time with her favorite people, consider it a success.

7. You'll Cry: True

You might think after all of the festivities, showers and parties are said and done, you're officially immune to emotions. Nope! Tears will be shed, during your rehearsal dinner speech, the vows or while you're giving a toast at the reception. Remember: At the end of the day, this is one of your closest friends in the world getting married, and she chose you to stand by her side on the most special day of her life. That's worth celebrating (and crying happy tears over).

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