46 Questions to Ask Your Sister-in-Law to Build Your Relationship

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Wendy Rose Gould
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  • Wendy Rose Gould is a freelance reporter based in Phoenix, Arizona.
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  • Wendy has a degree in editorial journalism and a second degree in philosophy.
Updated Jan 29, 2024

Your sister-in-law has the potential to become one of your closest friends. She arguably knows your partner and the family dynamic better than anyone else and will remain a part of your world for the long haul. Carving out time to explore different questions to ask your sister-in-law can help create a strong foundation for your relationship in the months and years to come.

From questions about your spouse to the family's unique history and inner dynamics to lighthearted questions that'll help you better understand who your sister-in-law is, we're covering all the basics here. Ask her during some 1:1 time you've planned together, or dive into some of these topics at the next family gathering.

In this article:

Things to Talk About With Your Sister-in-Law

There's no shortage of things you can talk about with your sister-in-law, especially as the two of you become closer. Here are some good topics to dive into as you're getting to know one another.

  • Her life
  • The family
  • Your partner
  • Advice
  • General conversations

Questions to Ask Your Sister-in-Law About Her Life

Whether you've recently met or have known each other for a while and are simply looking for more ways to connect, it's always a good idea to ask about what's going on in her world. Here are some of the best questions to ask your sister-in-law to learn more about her.

  • How did you decide on your career path and do you like what you do?
  • What are some of your specific goals or aspirations for your future?
  • Have you traveled anywhere that left a lasting impression on you?
  • How do you balance your personal life with other commitments and responsibilities?
  • What role do friendships play in your life and how do you maintain meaningful connections with others?
  • If you could go back in time, is there any advice you'd give your younger self?
  • Do you have a skill or talent that not many people know about?
  • What's your favorite way to enjoy a little self-care?
  • Do you enjoy cooking, and if so, what's your signature dish?

Questions About the Family to Ask Your Sister-in-Law

Your sister-in-law has the 411 on all the family happenings ranging from childhood memories to quirky dynamics to the family's history.

  • What can you tell me about your family's history? How far back does it go?
  • Were there any notable milestones or challenges the family has experienced?
  • What would you say are some of the strengths your family possesses?
  • Do you have any favorite family traditions you've carried on in your adulthood?
  • Are there any tricky family dynamic situations I should be aware of for get-togethers or otherwise?
  • Are there any favorite family recipes that you still make to this day?
  • What family events or gatherings are particularly meaningful that I should be aware of?
  • How does your family feel about travel? Was it something you did together often?
  • What strategies do you use for effective communication within your family?

Questions About Your Partner to Ask Your Sister-in-Law

In the same way your sister-in-law knows about all the family stuff, she's a wealth of information when it comes to your partner. After all, they grew up together and likely know more about each other than even some of their closest friends!

  • What was it like growing up with my partner? Were you guys close?
  • How would you describe my partner in a few words?
  • Did my partner go through any formative experiences growing up?
  • What's something about my partner that most people don't know or understand?
  • Did my partner go through any funny or notable phases in their early childhood or teen years?
  • What was your guys' relationship with your parents like? How would you explain their parenting style?
  • What's one of your favorite memories with my partner?
  • How do you think my partner has changed and evolved as an adult?
  • What do you admire most about my partner?

A good way to build rapport and mutual respect with your sister-in-law is to reach out for some advice every once in a while. This shows that you care about her opinion and trust her wisdom, and it also creates some vulnerability that sets the stage for an enduring friendship.

  • What do you think is the key to a successful marriage or long-term relationship?
  • Can you share any insights on effective communication with extended family members?
  • Do you have any advice or wisdom for me about how I can connect with my partner even more?
  • What's your personal approach for overcoming obstacles?
  • Do you believe in the motto, "You should never go to bed angry?" Why or why not?
  • What's a life lesson you've learned that I could benefit from understanding?
  • What do you think is the best way to communicate with my partner when there's a challenge or conflict?
  • Do you have any advice for ways I can become a more integral part of the family?
  • What's the best advice you've received about parenting or raising children?

General Questions to Ask Your Sister-in-Law

For low-key scenarios, reach in your pocket for these lighthearted conversation starters. From funny questions to ask your sister-in-law to everyday topics, these are a great way to break the ice and learn about each other.

  • Are there any recent movies you've seen that you recommend?
  • If money weren't an issue, what musical artist would you see over and over again?
  • What would you say are the guiding values or principles in your life?
  • What's the most interesting thing that happened to you this week?
  • What are one or two of your favorite books that left a lasting impression on you?
  • Are there any specific causes or charities that you're passionate about supporting?
  • What's a restaurant you go to over and over again, and are there any new ones you've recently tried and would recommend?
  • Is there a skill or hobby you have thought about picking up?
  • What's the most interesting job you've ever had?
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