56 Fun, Romantic, Sexy & Sweet Questions to Ask Your Wife

Spark conversation and intimacy with these Qs.
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Wendy Rose Gould
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  • Wendy Rose Gould is a freelance reporter based in Phoenix, Arizona.
  • Along with The Knot, she contributes to Martha Stewart Living, Real Simple, Insider, Verywell Mind and others.
  • Wendy has a degree in editorial journalism and a second degree in philosophy.
Updated Nov 29, 2023

You and your partner may fit together brilliantly, but nourishing your relationship still takes some conscientious effort. That means planning dates and taking time to understand each other better. These 56 questions to ask your wife will definitely get the ball rolling on growing your intimacy and connection.

Ranging from steamy Qs about her fantasies to heartfelt inquiries that'll foster romance between you, these questions to ask your wife will lend themselves nicely to a cozy date at home with bevvies and candles. Alternatively, they can be used to pass the time on a road trip, or snuck into conversation every once in a while just because.

Below, find the best questions to ask your wife whenever the mood strikes.

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Fun Questions to Ask Your Wife

Not quite ready to dive into the deep end? That's cool. Start with some of these lighthearted and fun questions to ask your wife.

  1. What are your top three favorite places in the world?
  2. If you had $1000 to spend in any one store, where would you go and what would you buy?
  3. What does the perfect day of pampering and self-care look like to you?
  4. What's a mantra that you often repeat to yourself?
  5. What's a skill you've always wished you had?
  6. What was your personal win of the day?
  7. What's a movie that's been on your "watch list" forever, but you haven't gotten around to actually viewing?
  8. What book have you read that stuck with you most and why was it so impactful?

Romantic Questions to Ask Your Wife

Foster some amour between you and your wife with these questions that tap into her romantic side. Her answers might just surprise you!

  1. What does your perfect date night look like (particularly an activity we haven't done before)?
  2. What love song makes you think of me whenever you hear it?
  3. What's something free that would make you really happy to receive?
  4. What's the most peculiar thing you've kept for sentimental reasons?
  5. What did you think of me the first time we met each other?
  6. What real-world couple do you look up to the most for their relationship?
  7. What are you most looking forward to about spending our lives together?
  8. What does the phrase "unconditional love" mean to you?

Deep Questions to Ask Your Wife

If you're craving a more intimate connection with your wife, consider these deep questions to ask your wife. These Qs will get her pondering and help you understand her even better.

  1. What accomplishment are you most proud of in your life and why?
  2. What's a message you wish you could share with your 18-year-old self?
  3. What was a time in your life when you went against the rules or what you were "supposed" to do—and it was completely worth it?
  4. What's your vision of the perfect retirement together?
  5. What are some of the positive ways your parents have impacted you?
  6. What's a fear you have that you haven't yet shared with me?
  7. What was one of the happiest moments of your life?
  8. What are you most looking forward to in the next decade?

Sexy Questions to Ask Your Wife

Here's where the va-va-voom happens. These steamy, sexy questions to ask your wife are the perfect way to learn more about her inner desires and fantasies.

  1. What part of your body do you love the most?
  2. What's something you find super sexy that isn't stereotypically sexy?
  3. What turns you on the fastest?
  4. If you were shopping for a new sex toy, what would be at the top of your list?
  5. What's been your favorite physically intimate experience we've had together?
  6. What's something we haven't tried in the bedroom yet that you're curious about?
  7. What do you think about when you masturbate?
  8. What does the perfect foreplay look like to you?

Sweet Questions to Ask Your Wife

Keep things sweet with these heartfelt questions. Just showing some curiosity about who she is and what makes her tick will help bring you two together.

  1. What's something I could do for you this week that'd make you happier?
  2. What's a tradition that you'd like to start together?
  3. What's your favorite RomCom couple and why?
  4. What's something that makes you genuinely happy every time you encounter it?
  5. What's your favorite present you've ever received from me?
  6. What do you love most about yourself?
  7. Which dessert is your favorite to eat and which is your favorite to make?
  8. What's your ideal way to celebrate an accomplishment?

Serious Questions to Ask Your Wife

Ready to get down to business? Consider these serious questions to ask your wife to discover more about what's going on in her mind.

  1. What do you think our biggest strengths are as a couple?
  2. In what ways do you think you and I have changed individually since we started dating?
  3. Is there any offense that you consider unforgivable?
  4. Are you happy with the current trajectory of your life?
  5. What's a fear that you had for a long time you were able to overcome?
  6. What's a personal goal you'd like to set for yourself?
  7. What's something about me that you wish I would work on to improve?
  8. What's something about yourself that you're really proud of?

Random Questions to Ask Your Wife

Sometimes your relationship could use a little dose of the unexpected. These silly, random questions to ask your wife can add some spontaneity.

What's your latest unpopular opinion?

  1. What "era" would you say you're in right now?
  2. What's the weirdest recent dream you've had and, if you had to guess, what do you think it meant?
  3. What's the worst haircut you've ever gotten and how did you deal?
  4. If you had to live in any movie set, what would you choose and why?
  5. Which musicians do you think are completely underrated and overrated?
  6. Which fictional villain do you kinda-sorta understand or like, and why?
  7. If you could only eat one thing for breakfast for the rest of your life, what meal would you choose?
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