22 Groomsmen Proposal Cards to Invite Them to Join Your Wedding Party

Here's how to ask your crew to suit up for your big day.
Black and gold best man and groomsmen cards
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Updated Dec 13, 2023
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Sorry to break the news, but you shouldn't ask your friends to be in your wedding party with just a text. It's much better—and still quite easy—to ask "Will you be part of my big day?" with best man and groomsmen proposal cards. Whether it's a small surprise in the mail or the finishing touch to a groomsman proposal gift, a handwritten note is an ideal way to convey how important their support is to you. If you're ready to pop the next question, we've got you covered. From scratch-off cards and designs with funny puns to alcohol-themed illustrations and more, your future best man and groomsmen (or groomswomen!) will appreciate one of these invites.

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Our Favorite Groomsmen Proposal Cards

Don't spend hours at the store browsing the card aisle when you can shop the best invitations for your groomsmen proposal online from the comfort of your couch. Ask "Will you be my groomsman" (or "best man") with one of these charming bits of stationery.

1. There Will Be An Open Bar Groomsmen Card

There Will Be An Open Bar Groomsmen Card
Photo: Zazzle

You know what your crew's really interested in: free drinks! This groomsman proposal card will sell your pals on the role (though we're sure they'd accept regardless). The cover jokes, "Let me start by saying there will be an open bar" and is personalized with each groomsman's name. You can then write a custom note to be printed on the inside—a big bonus if you don't have the best handwriting.

2. Your Service Is Requested Groomsmen Card

Your Service As Groomsman Is Requested proposal card
Photo: Hmacdo Paper Co

Give your groomsmen a preview of their wedding attire with this card. The front features a watercolor tuxedo illustration with the message "Your service as groomsman is requested." The inside is blank with plenty of room for a handwritten message and the white envelope is included. We suggest pairing these invites with a tie or cuff links for a dapper groomsmen proposal gift. There's matching stationery for your best man as well!

3. Time to Suit Up Groomsmen Card

Time to Suit Up Groomsman Card
Photo: Amazon

Tell your buddies it's time to break out their formalwear with these groomsmen invitations. Printed on black cardstock, "It's time to suit up! Will you be my groomsman?" pops in gold lettering. They're sold in sets of eight, with two dedicated to best men so you have enough for everyone in your party.

4. Letterpressed Groomsmen Card

Dark brown cotton paper card with Groomsman? letterpressed
Photo: Abbey Ratcliff

If you and your groomsmen's style is sleek and understated, you'll both love this minimalist card design. The letterpressed card bears the simple phrase "Groomsman?" to ask your wedding party without all the (verbal) bells and whistles. The shop also has designs for your best man so everyone in your crew can have the same stationery. Add an envelope for a small additional fee.

5. Vintage Gent Best Man Card

Your Service As A Best Man Is Requested card with old time man illustration
Photo: Zazzle

If your future best man is the person who has been in your life the longest, this vintage-inspired groomsmen card is a fitting choice. The illustration of a man in a suit with a top hat and monocle will show him just how prestigious this ask is. You can even personalize the text with your names and wedding date so they know your fiancé wants them to fulfill this role too. The best part? You can order this design as a physical invite or a digital download to send via e-mail to your buddy.

6. The Hangover Groomsmen Card

Will You Join My Wolf Pack? groomsman card with illustration of Alan from The Hangover
Photo: Mor Mor Cards

If The Hangover is one of their favorite movies, this card is sure to get a laugh. (Just make sure you don't mimic their bachelor party escapades and nearly miss your wedding day.) It features an illustration of the character Alan (Zach Galifianakis) and references his iconic bit with, "Will you join my wolf pack?" Each card comes individually packaged with a brown kraft paper envelope.

7. OK Good Talk Groomsmen Card

Ok Good Talk groomsman card
Photo: Amazon

Don't ask, tell! This good-hearted groomsman card reads, "You're going to be my groomsman. Ok good talk." The inside is blank for you to handwrite a personal note—or, you know, you could just sign your name and leave it at that.

8. Bro Do Me a Solid Groomsmen Card

Bro Do Me a Solid Groomsman Proposal Card
Photo: invites by this and that

This "Will you be my groomsman?" card is short and—er—sweet. It states "Bro. Do me a solid." on the front, with the ever-important question printed on the inside. It's made from kraft paper for a casual groomsman proposal card.

9. Job Description Best Man Card

Best Man Job Description proposal card
Photo: Zazzle

Lay out the role and responsibilities for your best man with this proposal card—don't worry, they're mostly light-hearted requests, like "Always say 'I got it bro'" and "Do not screw up the toast." You can even personalize each line of the job description to be ultra-specific to your right-hand man. (Psst, this design can be downloaded instantly.)

10. Fish Pun Groomsman Card

Let's Make It O-Fish-Al groomsman card
Photo: tagooey

Looks like a group fishing trip is in order! Give this groomsman card to your lake buddy who knew he'd be picked before you even got engaged. It jokes "Let's make it o-fish-al, will you be my groomsman?" with a cartoon of a hooked fish.

11. Gamer Groomsmen Card

Gamer Groomsmen Card
Photo: Walmart

If you have a big gaming squad, these "Will you be my groomsman?" cards are a great choice. They come in a set of 16 and read "Game on" with a controller on vibrant card stock. They can respond "yes" next time you're both online.

12. Informational Groomsmen Card

Instant download groomsman card
Photo: Secret Garden Paperie

Don't just ask your friends and family to be groomsmen—also tell them everything the role entails. This card idea is actually a digital download, so you can personally customize it with everyone's names and your wedding details like the date, location, color scheme, dress code and who else will be a part of the big day. Then, just print it yourself to hand over or send it as an e-card.

13. Retro Photo Best Man Card

Retro Photo Best Man Card
Photo: Zazzle

How about something simple and sentimental? Customize this best man proposal card with a photo of you two for super-personal stationery. It'll remind them of all the good times you've already shared and get them excited for future memories as a member of your wedding party.

14. Mustache Groomsmen Card

Mustache Groomsmen Card
Photo: speak loud

This punny card—well, pop-up box—will be a hit with all the jokesters in your crew. The card includes a handlebar mustache prop and instructs each groomsman to send a photo wearing the 'stache to let you know they accept the role. It's bound to stir up some laughs in the group chat. As an added bonus, you can add cuff links.

15. Pride Flag Groomsmen Card

Groom Squad card with rainbow border and aviators with rainbow lenses
Photo: Zazzle

Rally your future wedding crew with these groomsmen proposal cards. They say "groom squad" over the pride flag with a pair of cool aviator sunglasses. The inside is blank, so you can personalize each card with a handwritten note.

16. Scratch-Off Groomsmen Card

Alcohol bottle and glass illustration with scratch off groomsmen card
Photo: Vibrant Disenyo

This groomsmen proposal card has three scratch-off bubbles to reveal your very important question: "Will you be my groomsman?" Choose from two designs, including a bow tie illustration or a glass of whiskey (the latter is also an opportunity to pair the card with a bottle of his favorite liquor as a proposal gift).

17. Top Secret Best Man Card

Top Secret Best Man Card
Photo: Zazzle

It's actually no secret who you want to be your wedding party MVP, but this "Will you be my best man?" card is fun nonetheless. The "top secret" file turns over to ask if they'll accept their mission of being your go-to agent for wedding help. They'll be eager to introduce themselves as "Man, Best Man" from here on out.

18. Groomswoman Card

Custom illustration groomswoman card
Photo: Foxes On Boxes

Having a groomswoman? This card features a custom illustration of the two of you for a tearjerking proposal idea. Personalize the text with their name and a short-and-sweet note like this: "I need my sister by my side as I say 'I do'."

18. Brother Groomsmen Card

There's Only One Thing Better Than Having You As My Brother groomsman proposal card
Photo: invites by this and that

If you're planning to ask your brother to be a groomsman or best man, this design is perfect for doing so. The front of the card reads, "There's only one thing better than having you as my brother..." while the message continues inside to say "...Having you by my side! Will you be my groomsman?" Aww!

19. Go Easy On The Speech Best Man Card

Go Easy On The Speech Best Man Card
Photo: Amazon

The best man's speech can go one of two ways: It can either be nostalgic in a good way or nostalgic in a "that was supposed to be a secret" way. If your chosen MVP is a talker, let him know you're hoping for the former scenario with this funny card. It says "Go easy on the speech and just don't f*** it up!" You can show a lil' love on the inside with a handwritten note.

20. Gym Spot Best Man Card

I'm Gonna Need You To Spot Me! best man card
Photo: tagooey

This card is dedicated to your gym bro. It reads "I'm gonna need you to spot me!" with a cartoon weightlifter. Simply choose the recipient—whether it's your best man, a groomsman or even a "brosmaid"—then handwrite a personal note inside once it arrives.

21. Funny Groomsmen Card

No One: Absolutely No One: meme groomsmen proposal card
Photo: tagooey

If you two are always cracking up at the latest memes, give them this card for a funny groomsmen invitation. It jokes that it was your fiancé's idea to give them a written proposal—though, even you have to admit it's a nice gesture. You can customize the card with three different font colors and 19 recipient options.

22. Step Brothers Best Man Card

Step Brothers Did You Just Become My Best Man card
Photo: Mor Mor Cards

Are you and your closest always quoting Step Brothers? If so, your best friend will get a kick out of this best man proposal card. It shows Brennan and Dale, played by Will Ferrel and John C. Reilly respectively, in their tuxedos and spins their iconic quote to "Did you just become my best man?"

22. Save the Date Groomsmen Card

Free Beer Will You Be My Groomsman card and save the date
Photo: Petal Paper Co.

Your crew won't be able to resist this sales pitch! This groomsman proposal card exclaims "Free Beer!" It doubles as a save-the-date so they know exactly what day their presence is required.

Groomsman Proposal Card Asking Advice

The cover of your best man or groomsman proposal card is perfect! But now you're staring at the blank interior and wondering what you should write besides just your name. Here's how to go about personalizing your wedding party invites.

What to Write in Groomsmen Proposal Cards

The most important thing to write in your groomsmen proposal cards is "Will you be a groomsman?" or "Will you be my best man?" Simple enough, right? You can then follow up the question with why you want them, specifically, to be a part of your big day. For instance, "You've been my friend and biggest supporter since middle school—I can't imagine getting married without you there to cheer me on." You could also add that your fiancé is excited for them to be part of your big day too, so they feel extra appreciated.

If you know the date of your wedding already, you can follow-up the sentimnetality with that information. You don't want to overwhelm your crew from the jump though, so consider communicating any additional information, like prewedding events and attire expectations in person, over the phone or in an email. Let the groomsman proposal card serve as just a thoughtful way to welcome them into your wedding party.

Your groomsmen's proposal cards also don't need to be an exclamation of your gratitude. You should hand out groomsmen thank-you cards at or shortly after the wedding to express your appreciation for their support. It'll be much more meaningful when you can directly address how they helped you out during your engagement and at the wedding.

Will You Be My Groomsman Message Ideas

If you don't think you have a way with words, fear not. You can copy and paste these groomsmen proposal messages into your own cards—we won't tell.

Groomsmen proposal messages:

  • I'm getting married on [insert wedding date]! I can't imagine my wedding without you by my side. Will you be a groomsman?

  • I know of a great party with an open bar—Will you be my groomsman?

  • It's time to suit up! Your service as a groomsman is requested at the wedding of [enter couples' names] on [insert wedding date].

  • I hope you have been practicing your dance moves because I'm getting married and I want you as a groomsman!

  • [Insert name], It would mean a lot to us if you were a part of our wedding party. Would you be my groomsman?

Best man proposal messages:

  • [Insert name], Your friendship means the world to me. I would be honored if you would be my best man as I marry the love of my life.

  • So, you might have to write a speech…Will you be my best man?

  • I'm going to need your sound advice to get through wedding planning. Will you be my best man?

  • You've been my best friend for as long as I can remember, so I'm hoping you saw this one coming…Will you be my best man?

  • [Insert name], I can't say 'I do' without my brother by my side. Will you be my best man?

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