A Same-Sex Wedding With Stylish Swagger

A harmony of polish and panache is perfectly suited for two gentlemen.
by Lauren Kay
Patricia Heal ​

Wedding planner Jove Meyer of Jove Meyer Events created a modern, luxe setting for two men to say "I do." The best part of same-sex weddings according to Meyer? "Creating traditions together. There’s no rule book for gay weddings, so couples can do what feels right to them," he says. 

  1. Modern Masculinity

    Patricia Heal ​

    Natural elements like wood, marble and metallics pair with a moody palette of greens to give this wedding a refined, masculine vibe. Napkins in playful patterns add to the celebration, while a collection of unexpected stems gives an element of softness and romance to the table. "A napkin takes up a large portion of the setting, so opt for custom ones— if not for all your guests, for at least the head table," Meyer says. Bonus: You can use them for postwedding dinner parties. 

    Putnam & Putnam flowers, PutnamFlowers.com; Katie Fischer Design menus, KatieFischerDesign.com; Broadway Party Rentals tables, BroadwayPartyRentals.com; Party Rental Ltd. chairs and place settings, PartyRentalLtd.com

  2. Dapper Details

    Patricia Heal ​

    Dressing the part means staying authentic to your style, Meyer says. A unified palette gives these mismatched ties and shoes a cohesive, styled look. 

    Awl & Sundry shoes, AwlandSundry.com; The Tie Bar bow tie and tie, TheTieBar.com; BlockandHammer copper tie bar, Etsy.com

  3. Polished Perfection

    Patricia Heal ​

    The details should feel special—start to finish. A marble design is the perfect canvas for romantic copper calligraphy and lime edging. "The envelope liner is the first thing guests see when they open the invitation. We wanted to make sure they knew it was going to be a party," Meyer says of the Jackson Pollack–inspired splatter liner. 

    Katie Fischer Design stationery, KatieFischerDesign.com; Ink + Nibs calligraphy, InkandNibs.com

  4. Vintage Vino

    Patricia Heal ​

    A guest book doesn’t have to be a book. Ask friends and family to sign bottles of wine you can open on milestone anniversaries. 

  5. Tasty Treats

    Patricia Heal ​

    When it comes to favors, go for edible. "Many guests travel to weddings, and some keep partying after, so steer clear of tchotchkes and go for something guests can eat right then and there," Meyer says. 

    Jam Jar Bakery favors, JamJarNY.com

  6. Copper Cuff Links

    boutonnieres, wedding bands and cuff links
    Patricia Heal

    Opt for matching rings or choose something authentic to your personal style. These cuff links reflect each groom’s first name as well as their shared monogram, a chic symbol of their coming together.

    Anna Sheffield gold band and black diamond band, AnnaSheffield.comBlockandHammer cuff links, Etsy.com

  7. Decadent Drizzle

    Patricia Heal

    A not-quite naked cake gets a style upgrade with a caramel finish and floral topping. This rich, multilayer dessert is the exclamation point of this sophisticated soiree. 

    Luckybird Bakery cake, LuckybirdBakes.com

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