Is It Ok to Ask for Cash Instead of Gifts?

by Simone Hill
Cash vs. Gifts
Jasmine Starr Photography

Let's put this question to rest. It's totally fine to prefer cash over gifts. Maybe you feel like you have plenty for the kitchen. Or maybe the one thing that would help the two of you set up a new home would be cash toward a down payment on a new home. Whatever the case, let's get this out of the way once and for all. It's totally normal to want and prefer cash to a blender.

Now for the hard part.

How do you actually communicate this to your friends and family? Our advice…

  • You should never ask for specific gifts, monetary or otherwise.
  • Instead, let them know (if they ask) that you would prefer cash gifts. Let your parents, siblings, wedding party, and close friends know too — and if guests ask them, have them relay your preference.
  • Don't announce it in a formal way to your guests (whatever you do, don't mention it on the invitation!). If guests are curious, they'll ask someone close to you what you would types of gifts you would like to receive.
  • And of course, be sure to accept and acknowledge every gift gracefully (that means send out thank-you notes). As for monetary gifts, let the giver know how you intend to spend their gift in a thank-you card.

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