26 Must-Know Tips to Creating the Best Wedding Registry
Ready to start your own registry? It's one of the most fun aspects of getting married—filling your home and complementing your lifestyle with the addition of gifts from well-wishers. Follow these 26 tips to create a registry that's perfect for you (and compare retailers and manage your registries with The Knot All-In-One Wedding Registry here).
1. Time It Right
It's completely acceptable to register as soon as you get engaged. This is great for guests who'd like to purchase a gift for any prewedding celebration—engagement parties, showers—or for people who'd just like to send something as a token of their congratulations.
2. Know Yourself
Don't be a slave to traditional registry lists. If you never cook at home but love to camp, it makes more sense to register for a tent than to request a crystal gravy boat. But be open to the fact that your tastes may change in the future. Even though you can't imagine a need at this moment in your life for that gravy boat, it may become indispensable for future Thanksgiving dinners with your in-laws.
3. Take Stock
Make a list of what both of you have and will keep—and what you still need and want. Consider the need for "everyday" and "formal" versions of dinnerware, glassware, table linens and serving items. It's also important to discuss general color schemes or patterns before you begin.
4. Ask a Sales Rep
Speak up and ask: Is the gift-buying process hassle-free for buyers? How many locations does the store have? Can guests order by phone or fax? Does the store have a toll-free number? Better yet, will your registry be available online? Can guests purchase gifts online?
5. Look for Perks
Before choosing where to register, find out what kinds of perks and discounts you might get. For example, some retailers offer what's called a completion program that allows you to purchase whatever you don't receive at a discount (10 to 15 percent off for up to a year after the wedding, for example).
6. Choose More Than One Spot
One is not enough; 10 is too many. Two to four registries give guests more choices, and it's a manageable number. Your guests will have plenty of options, and you won't have to keep adding items as things are bought. To make it easy on yourself and others, pick one store for bedding, another for china, and so on. This will prevent you from signing up for the same items at different stores.
7. Seal the Deal
Once you choose your stores, you can do two things. First, create your registry on The Knot. Two, set up an appointment to go to your stores. Some stores will assign you a registry specialist who will lead you around and help you stay on track. Some larger retailers allow couples to register by themselves with the aid of a hand-held scanner or your smartphone. While this removes the pressure of a salesperson looking over your shoulder, you may appreciate the expert advice from someone who's knowledgeable.
8. Do It Together
The two of you should be registering for gifts you'll both enjoy. To decide on what you need, talk about the style of home you'd both like, and divide and conquer categories (maybe you get to choose electronics, while your partner selects the bedding). Try not to take too much input from well-meaning family members and friends—this is for your home, not theirs, and your decisions should be made with your partner.
9. Know Your Guests
Register for items in a range of prices so people can choose gifts within their means. Provide a mix of goods: Think traditional for older relatives, and affordable and fun for college pals. It may sound a bit manipulative, but you've got to make your registry choices appealing—and easy for your guests to buy.
To satisfy gift needs for showers and engagement parties, request more items than the number of people on your guest list. Having options doesn't look greedy at all: You're actually doing guests a favor by giving them more choices.
11. Take Your Time
Couples who try to register in a rush may later regret their choices—or miss items they need. Budget plenty of time for browsing and debating; you can always add to your list at a later time.
12. Get Plenty of Plates
It's a good idea to request 8 to 12 place settings. Regular dinner parties are usually six to eight people, but if you have a large family and plan on entertaining during holidays, you may want more.
13. Guide the Gift-Giving
A good point to keep in mind when you first register is to sign up for products you really want or need, like a new mattress. Then as the items on your checklist start to dwindle, add more. That way you won't be stuck with a fruit basket when instead you really need those extra salad plates.
14. Check on Your Peers
Looking for a good point of reference? Browse registries of the newlywed couples you know. You'll be able to see what was actually purchased, and what items guests steered clear of.
15. Know Your Lingo
China is a catchall term often used to describe dinnerware and dishes. Formal or fine, china is usually more expensive than casual china, is of a higher quality, and includes bone china and porcelain. Casual china, such as earthenware and stoneware, is often less costly and tends to be lower quality.
16. Stay in Season
If you have longer than one year before the wedding, don't register for seasonal items that'll be replaced in a few months. When guests go to purchase gifts, they may find those things have been discontinued.
17. Sign up for Storage
Don't forget to register for places to stash your gifts. For example, you'll want to store sterling silver and silver-plated flatware in felt rolls in a silver chest with slotted insets (or a tightly closed drawer) lined with felt linen to prevent scratching, denting and tarnishing.
18. Think Outside the Box
Have everything you already need? Register for experiences, honeymoon extras and cash (the classy and etiquette-friendly way). Create a honeymoon and/or cash registry with The Knot Newlywed Fund, and receive gifts from a Netflix subscription to spa treatments—the sky's the limit.
19. Ship Smart
Ask the store if it can ship to any address you designate. That spares guests the hassle of having to go to a store to pick up your gift and then to the post office to send it.
20. Check Out and Check Up
Once you've finished creating your list, ask for a printout or read it over carefully to make sure there are no mistakes (did you accidentally register for 11 stand mixers instead of 1?). If you had someone assist you in setting up at the store, get their business card so you have a point person should you have any questions or corrections later.
21. Let Your Guests Know
Unfortunately, it's not appropriate for the bride or groom to flat-out ask for wedding gifts, so you have to be careful with how you let people know where you're registered. Never include registry information on your wedding invitations—word of mouth is one appropriate way to disseminate this. Your registry info can also be listed on your engagement party and bridal shower invites since the invitation doesn't come from you, but from the person hosting the shower. You should definitely also include such details on your wedding website.
22. Keep Track
How will the store keep track of your registry? Most retailers have a system, computerized or not, that'll update your registry daily—taking seconds or hours. Visit your registries often to make sure that purchased gifts have been removed and update your lists with additional items as gifts are purchased.
23. Plan for Late Shoppers
Ask the store how long your registry list will remain active after the wedding. Traditional etiquette says guests have up to one year from your wedding day to buy a gift, so that's at least how long your registry should remain active.
24. Weekend Update
Two Fridays before your wedding (most gifts are bought between two weeks before and two weeks after a wedding), check your registry and add additional items if necessary to make sure guests have options.
25. Cash Out
You can't ask for specific gifts from your guests, monetary or otherwise. If guests are curious, they'll ask someone close to you what you want and the word will spread that you prefer cash gifts—also, register for cash (the etiquette-approved way!) on The Knot Newlywed Fund. When writing thank-you notes, do let the giver know how you intend to spend the money.
26. Be Gracious
Remember to thank your guests adequately—a text message or email won't suffice here. Handwritten thank-you notes for gifts received before the wedding should be sent within two weeks of arrival. Notes for gifts received on or after the wedding day should be sent within two months of your return from the honeymoon.