26 Must-Know Tips for Creating the Best Wedding Registry

Everything you should know about registering to get exactly what you want (and need).
by The Knot
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Ready to start your own registry? It's one of the most fun aspects of getting married—filling your home and complementing your lifestyle with gifts from well-wishers is one of the best ways to signify your new beginning. Luckily for you, The Knot's All-In-One Wedding Registry tool makes it easy to curate and manage all of your registries in one, shoppable place. While there aren't too many strict rules on how to register for a wedding, there are a few guidelines you should be sure to follow. And with the help of these wedding registry tips, you'll be on your way to creating a registry that's perfect for you (and your partner).

1. Time It Right

One of the biggest wedding registry tips is that it's completely acceptable, if not recommended, to create one as soon as you get engaged. This makes it easier for guests who'd like to purchase a gift for any pre-wedding celebration, like engagement parties or showers, or for those who'd just like to send something as a token of their congratulations.

2. Know Yourself

It's okay to shy away from traditional registry lists. If you never cook at home but love to camp, it makes more sense to register for a tent than to request a crystal gravy boat. But, be open to the fact that your tastes may change in the future. Even though you can't imagine a need at this moment in your life for that gravy boat, it may become indispensable for future Thanksgiving dinners with your in-laws. To discover the best gift inspiration for your wishlist, browse the winners of The Knot's Registry Awards. 

3. Take Stock

One of the most important wedding registry tips is to take inventory with your partner. Make a list of what both of you have and will keep as well as what you still need and want. Consider the need for "everyday" and "formal" versions of dinnerware, glassware, table linens and serving items. It's also important to discuss general color schemes or patterns before you begin.

4. Ask a Sales Rep

Speak up and ask: Is the gift-buying process hassle-free for buyers? How many locations does the store have? Can guests order by phone or fax? Does the store have a toll-free number? Better yet, will your registry be available online? Can guests purchase gifts online? Be aware of how user-friendly your registry will be for your guests. 

5. Look for Perks

Before choosing where to register, find out what kinds of perks and discounts you might get. For example, some retailers offer what's called a completion program that allows you to purchase whatever you don't receive at a discount (10 to 15 percent off for up to a year after the wedding, for example).

6. Choose More Than One Spot

One is not enough; 10 is too many. Two to four registries give guests more choices, and it's a manageable number. And while you can absolutely register at smaller stores, it's best to register with at least one larger retailer like Amazon.com or Williams Sonoma. To make it easy on yourself and others, designate one store for bedding, select another store for kitchenware, and so on. This will prevent you from signing up for the same items at different spots.

7. Seal the Deal

Once you narrow down your retailers, you have two options. First, create your registry on The Knot. Then, set up an appointment to go to your stores to see the products in person. Some spots will assign you a registry specialist who will lead you around and help you stay on track. Some larger retailers allow couples to register by themselves with the aid of a hand-held scanner or your smartphone. While this removes the pressure of a salesperson looking over your shoulder, you may appreciate the expert advice from someone who's knowledgeable.

8. Do It Together

The two of you should be registering for gifts you'll both enjoy. To decide on what you need, talk about the style of home you'd both like, and divide and conquer categories (maybe you get to choose electronics, while your partner selects the bedding). While there may be input from well-meaning family members and friends, remember that the wedding registry is for your home, not theirs, and such decisions should be made with your partner. If you're still unclear on exactly how to make a wedding registry, let The Knot's experts guide you in the right direction.

9. Know Your Guests

Register for items in a range of prices so people can choose gifts within their means. Provide a mix of goods: Think traditional for older relatives, and affordable and fun for college pals. Ultimately,  you should make your registry choices appealing and easy for your guests to buy.

10. Over-Register

To satisfy gift needs for showers and engagement parties, request more items than the number of people on your guest list. Having options doesn't look greedy at all—you're actually doing guests a favor by giving them more choices.

11. Take Your Time

Couples who try to register in a rush may later regret their choices or miss items they need. Budget plenty of time for browsing and debating; you can always add to your list at a later time.

12. Get Plenty of Plates

It's a good idea to request 8 to 12 place settings. Regular dinner parties are usually six to eight people, but if you have a large family and plan on entertaining during the holidays, you may want more.

13. Guide the Gift-Giving

A good point to keep in mind when you first register is to sign up for products you really want or need, like a new mattress. Then, as the items on your checklist start to dwindle, add more. That way you won't be stuck with a fruit basket when instead you really need those extra salad plates.

14. Check on Your Peers

Looking for a good point of reference? Browse registries of the newlywed couples you know. Not only will it give you inspiration for your own list, you'll be able to see what was actually purchased and which items guests steered clear of, too.

15. Know Your Lingo

China, while a popular registry gift, is a catchall term often used to describe various types of dinnerware and dishes. Formal or fine china is usually more expensive than casual china; It's also of a higher quality and includes bone and porcelain china. Casual china, such as earthenware and stoneware, is often less costly and tends to be lower quality.

16. Stay in Season

If you have longer than one year before the wedding, don't register for seasonal items that'll be replaced in a few months. When guests go to purchase gifts, they may find those things have been discontinued.

17. Sign up for Storage 

Don't forget to register for places to stash your gifts. For example, you'll want to store sterling silver and silver-plated flatware in felt rolls in a silver chest with slotted insets (or a tightly closed drawer) lined with felt linen to prevent scratching, denting and tarnishing.

18. Think Outside the Box

Have everything you already need? Register for experiences, honeymoon extras and cash (the classy and etiquette-friendly way). Create a honeymoon and/or cash registry with The Knot Newlywed Fund, and receive gifts from a Netflix subscription to spa treatments—the sky's the limit.

19. Ship Smart

Ask the store if it can ship to any address you designate. That spares guests the hassle of going to a store to pick up your gift and then to the post office to send it.

20. Check Out and Check Up

Once you've finished creating your list, ask for a printout or read it over carefully to make sure there are no mistakes (did you accidentally register for 11 stand mixers instead of 1?). If you had someone assist you in setting up at the store, get their business card so you have a point person should you have any questions or corrections later.

21. Let Your Guests Know

Unfortunately, it's not appropriate for the bride or groom to flat-out ask for wedding gifts, so you have to be careful with how you let people know where you're registered. Never include registry information on your wedding invitations—word of mouth is one appropriate way to disseminate this. Your registry info can also be listed on your engagement party and bridal shower invites since the invitation doesn't come from you, but from the person hosting the shower. Your personalized wedding website is also a great place to share your registry.

22. Keep Track

How will the store keep track of your registry? Most retailers have a system, computerized or not, that'll update your registry within seconds or hours. Visit your registries often to make sure that purchased gifts have been removed and update your lists with additional items if necessary.

23. Plan for Late Shoppers

Ask the store how long your registry list will remain active after the wedding. Traditional etiquette says guests have up to one year from your wedding day to buy a gift, so that's at least how long your registry should remain active.

24. Weekend Update

Most gifts are bought between two weeks before and two weeks after a wedding. So, check your registry about two Fridays before your big day and add additional items if necessary to make sure guests have options.

25. Cash Out

While you can't explicitly ask for specific gifts from your guests, your registry will tip them off to what you want most. If you prefer cash gifts above anything else, you can register with The Knot Newlywed Fund. When writing thank-you notes, do let the giver know how you intend to spend the money.

26. Be Gracious

Remember to thank your guests adequately—a text message or email won't suffice here. Handwritten thank-you notes for gifts received before the wedding should be sent within two weeks of arrival. Notes for gifts received on or after the wedding day should be sent within two months of your return from the honeymoon.

Now that you know how to create the best registry, head to The Knot's Registry tool to get started on creating your dream wedding wishlist.

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