Wedding Ceremony: Can We Get a Gift for our Wedding Officiant?

Q:

My fiance and I will be married by a priest who was our professor in college. We are flying him across the country and paying for his hotel, meals, and transportation. I know traditionally the wedding officiant should be paid for the service, but we feel uncomfortable offering him money since we know him so well. Is it appropriate to buy him a gift instead?

A:

Absolutely! Your close relationship with your officiant makes giving a gift instead of money more appropriate. He'll appreciate the personal touch. And because you're paying his way, don't feel obligated to make it a pricey gift -- something heartfelt and thoughtful is best.