What's the Difference Between Mrs., Ms. and Miss?

Here's how to use the three prefixes.
by Emily Platt

Now that you're getting married, it's officially time to learn the difference between the prefixes Mrs., Ms. and Miss. Why? Because you're addressing wedding invitations—not to mention the fact that yours may be changing. To clear all confusion, we're explaining exactly when and how to use each title. Consider this the official guide to Ms. vs. Mrs. vs. Miss.

What's the difference between Mrs., Ms. and Miss?

Historically, "Miss" has been the formal title for an unmarried woman. "Mrs.," on the other hand, refers to a married woman. "Ms." is a little trickier: It's used by and for both unmarried and married women.

Will I be Ms. or Mrs. after I get married?

Ms. vs. Mrs.—which should you choose? In short, it depends. Typically, brides who change their name postwedding go by "Mrs." after marriage, since it usually indicates that they're sharing a surname with their spouse (as in "Mr. and Mrs. Smith"). If you're keeping your maiden name, you can go by "Ms." instead, or stick with "Mrs." as in "Mr. Smith and Mrs. Brown."  You can also go by "Ms." if you'd rather your title of respect not be associated with your marital status at all.

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Miss, Mrs. or Ms.: Which should I write on wedding invitations?

If a guest is a child, feel free to use "Miss." If she's an unmarried adult, go with "Miss" or "Ms." (Note that "Ms." is often preferred for older [thirty and up] women). If she's married and you know her chosen title, write that. If you're unsure, "Ms." is a safe and appropriate choice. Check out our complete guide to addressing wedding invitations for more specific scenarios.

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