Who Should Sit at Your Head Table at Your Wedding Reception?

It's all about who you want next to you on one of the most special nights of your life.
sophie ross the knot bridal fashion and beauty expert
Sophie Ross
sophie ross the knot bridal fashion and beauty expert
Sophie Ross
Bridal Fashion and Beauty Expert
  • Sophie Ross is a Senior Copywriter at Adore Me.
  • Sophie is an experienced style and beauty writer.
  • Sophie worked as an Associate Editor for The Knot from 2017 to 2019.
Updated Jun 05, 2018

Picture this: You and your beloved are newly married at your wedding reception, sitting directly across from the dance floor (best seat in the house!) and holding hands under the table. Who do you want next to you during this moment? Well, you have a few options for who to have at your head table during your wedding reception. Take a seat and check them out below.

Just the Two of You

A "sweetheart table"—aka one that only you and your new spouse will share, while sitting on the same side facing the rest of the room—is a common choice. You get to take it all in together, whisper sweet nothings to each other and watch as your loved ones live it up. But if you know you want said loved ones sitting right next to you instead, you have other options.

The Two of You, Plus the Best Man and Maid of Honor

You can also choose to have a four-person table instead, with just your VIP wedding attendants on either side of you. (Just keep in mind if they each have a plus-one, it's good etiquette to sit them at your table too so you don't separate them from their dates.) The rest of your wedding party can sit at a nearby table.

The Entire Wedding Party—Including Plus-Ones

Another popular choice is having a large feasting table as the focal point of the room, at which your entire wedding party—and their plus-ones—can sit. In the past, plus-ones of the wedding party have been relegated to another table, but that rule is largely ignored now. (It's easier for everyone.)

The Immediate Families

This can get tricky if either you or your spouse have divorced or remarried parents, so think carefully about whether or not the dynamics will work. If everyone has a good relationship (divorced or not!), and you and your spouse are both close with your parents and siblings, then this could be a perfect, meaningful choice for both you and your families.

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