Budgeting for the Wedding -- Who Pays for What?
Forget the archaic rule that says certain people have to pay for certain things. Your parents do not need to take out a third mortgage to pay for the wedding. And, if you're like most couples, the two of you might even be covering a good chunk of the expenses yourselves. The best way to work it out? Sit down with pencil, paper, and calculator and figure out what you really want and can afford. Keep in mind that smaller weddings are generally cheaper and large, formal weddings tend to be more expensive. Below, is the traditional breakdown (as in, bride's versus groom's family) of costs for everyone involved. But hear us out: These "rules" are made to be broken!
- Bride and family pay for church or synagogue, sexton, organist, etc.
- Groom and family pay for marriage license and officiant's fee.
Wedding Dress, Tux and Attire
- Bride and family pay for bride's dress, veil, accessories, and trousseau (read: lingerie and honeymoon clothes).
- Groom and family pay for groom's outfit.
- All attendants pay for their own clothing (including shoes).
Flowers and Decorations
- Bride and family pay for arrangements for church (including huppah if a Jewish wedding ceremony) and reception, plus bouquets and corsages for bridesmaids and flower girls.
- Groom and family pay for bride's bouquet and going-away corsage, boutonnieres for men, and corsages for mothers and grandmothers.
- Groom and family pay for complete honeymoon.
- Bride and family pay for all wedding photos and video.
- Bride or groom's family plans and hosts engagement party; if there is more than one, bride's family hosts the first one.
- Groom's family plans and hosts the rehearsal dinner.
- Bride plans and hosts bridesmaids' luncheon.
- Groom hosts and plans bachelors' dinner.
- Maid of honor and bridesmaids host shower.
- Best man and ushers host bachelor party.
- Friends may throw additional engagement parties or showers.
- Bride and family pay for all professional services, including food and decorations.
- Groom's family pays for the DJ or band and liquor.
- Bride and/or her family pay for groom's ring.
- Groom and/or his family pay for both of the bride's rings.
- Bride and family pay for invitations, announcements, and wedding programs.
- Bride and family pay for wedding transportation of bridal party to and from ceremony and reception.