48 Hypothetical Questions for Couples Looking to Deepen Their Connection
Communication is the key to a strong relationship—but you don't only have to talk about your day-to-day life. Hypothetical questions for couples that probe you to deepen your conversation can absolutely be a helpful tool in making you and your partner closer. "It is astounding how often couples fail to really talk, and how often they fail to talk before committing," shares Lindsay Jill Roth, author of Romances and Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours!) in 250 Questions. "The goal is that no topic should be too uncomfortable to discuss. I firmly believe that being able to effectively communicate is not only surprisingly sexy—it's what moves a relationship from being merely romantic to romantic and practical."
How should you begin these creative conversations with your partner? Roth suggests creating a ritual of asking deeper questions on walks or over dinner. "It's important to come to the table (no pun intended) with an open mind and an open heart," Roth says. "As I stress again and again in the book, it's not about getting the answers to the questions 'right.' It's about growing comfortable enough to discuss any and everything and building a foundation you can rely on for years to come."
Ready to get the conversation started and strengthen your relationship? Ahead, read 48 interesting hypothetical questions to ask your partner.
In this article:
- The Best Hypothetical Questions for Couples
- Funny Hypothetical Questions for Couples
- Spicy & Flirty Hypothetical Questions for Couples
- Deep Hypothetical Questions for Couples
The Best Hypothetical Questions for Couples
Get inspired to start conversations and improve communication with your partner with these great hypothetical questions.
- If you could relive one day in our relationship, what would it be?
- If we won $5 million today, how would we spend it?
- If we turned our love story into a movie, what would the title be?
- What would our dream vacation look like if we had unlimited resources?
- If we could only eat one meal every day for a year, what would it be?
- If we switched lives for a week, what would you struggle with most?
- What would you ask if we could have dinner with our future selves in 20 years?
- If you could change one thing about our first date, what would it be?
- If you could describe our relationship as a book genre, what would it be?
- Where is your happy place and why? Describe it physically.
- If we were stuck on a desert island together, what natural strengths would you bring to the table to help us survive?
- What does your dream home look like?
Funny Hypothetical Questions for Couples
- Want to bring some humor into your relationship? Read ahead for some fun hypothetical questions for couples.
- Would you still be with me if I was a worm?
- If I were a talking animal, what species would I be and what would be an annoying thing I would say all the time?
- If we had to start a weird side hustle together, what would it be and what would the company slogan be?
- What would be the first thing you would do as me if we swapped bodies?
- What reality show would we be the best on together?
- What do you think our pet really thinks about us?
- If a zombie apocalypse happened right now, who of us would survive longer and why?
- What three household items would you bring if we were stranded on a desert island?
- If we were supervillains, what would our names be and why?
- What would you do if you could pull a prank on me without any repercussions?
- If we could swap lives with another couple for a month, who would it be and why?
- If our relationship had a theme song, what would it be?
Spicy & Flirty Hypothetical Questions for Couples
Heat up the conversation with these flirty hypothetical questions to ask your partner. These questions are also a fun way to enhance intimacy in your relationship.
- If we were characters in a romance novel, what would our most passionate scene be like?
- If I could give you a secret code word for "let's sneak away together," what would the word be?
- If we had to sleep together in a completely unexpected place, where would it be?
- If I whispered something naughty to you right now, what do you think I would say?
- If we could relive one intimate moment together, what would it be?
- If you could dress me in anything right now, what would it be?
- What's your ultimate sexual fantasy for us?
- If I had to say what turns me on about you the most, what do you think I would answer?
- If one of your favorite sexual dreams about us came to life, what would it be?
- What's your dream romantic date for us?
- If you could try anything with me in the bedroom for a night with no judgment, what would it be?
- If we just met right now at a bar, how would you try to flirt with me?
Deep Hypothetical Questions for Couples
Hypothetical questions about your relationship can lead to plenty of deep, illuminating conversations. See a few questions to spark insights ahead.
- If we faced the hardest challenge in our life tomorrow, what is something about our relationship that would help us get through it?
- If we had to be apart for a long time, what would you do to keep our relationship strong?
- If we could write vows to each other right now, what would you promise?
- If you had to describe our love in a word, what would it be and why?
- If we could get a preview of ourselves 10 years from now, what do you think it would look like?
- What traits of mine would you hope our future children would have?
- If we could create our perfect home, what would it look like?
- If we had unlimited resources, what passion would you want us to pursue together?
- What advice would you give us if we could visit ourselves on our first date?
- If we could fall in love all over again, what part of the journey would you be most excited to revisit?
- If we had to move to a different country together, where would we go and how would we build our life?
- If you could change one thing about our lives, what would it be?