30 Fun and Important Questions to Ask Before Moving in Together

Picture this: You've been dating your lover for a while now, you're both daydreaming of living together and you spend all of your time at their place, anyway. So, what's next? Rather than rush in, know the questions to ask before moving in together.

Natassia Miller, a relationship expert and the founder of Wonderlust—an intimacy card deck designed for couples to get even closer through questions—is the ultimate person to ask about moving in with your partner (and knows just the right questions you should be asking). "Open and honest communication before moving in together can lay the foundation for a healthier, more resilient relationship," Miller tells The Knot. "When couples proactively discuss their expectations, they create a shared understanding and avoid many common sources of resentment."

Plus, studies show that couples who communicate effectively about expectations, finances and conflict resolution are better equipped to navigate challenges together. Who wouldn't want that? In your search for just the right things to discuss before moving in together, we've recruited the expertise of Miller to give you thirty amazing questions to ask that are sure to start your coliving relationship on the right foot.

In this article:

• Important Questions to Ask Before Moving in Together
• Financial Questions to Ask Before Moving in Together
• Fun Questions to Ask Before Moving in Together
• Why It's Important to Discuss Things Before Moving in Together

Important Questions to Ask Before Moving in Together

Whether it comes to sharing chores or talking about babies, there are some important things to talk about before moving in together. Luckily, Miller provided her best-of-the-best examples for you to try out for yourself.

1. What does this next step of moving in together mean to us?
2. What are our long-term goals as a couple, and how does moving in together fit into them?
3. How will we divide household chores and responsibilities?
4. How will we handle major lifestyle differences (i.e., sleep and eating schedules, cleanliness, diet preferences)?
5. What are our expectations around alone time versus shared time?
6. What are our expectations when it comes to guests, family visits and social life?
7. How do we handle conflict, and what are some ways we can improve our communication?
8. What does a home feel like to each of us, and how can we create that together?
9. How do we handle stress individually, and how can we support each other during difficult times?
10. How will we handle it if we realize living together isn't working out?

Financial Questions to Ask Before Moving in Together

Okay, you knew this one was going to come up: financial questions to ask before moving in together. While you may feel the urge to table the talk about money out of nervousness or even shame, this is hands-down one of the most important topics to cover before living with a partner(s). According to Miller, ask these questions below.

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1. How will we split rent and utilities? Will it be 50/50 or based on income?
2. Will we combine any finances or keep everything separate?
3. How will we handle groceries and household expenses?
4. What are our personal spending habits, and do we have any financial deal-breakers?
5. Do either of us have debt, and how does that impact our financial goals?
6. How much should we be saving together, if at all?
7. What happens if one of us loses our job or has an unexpected financial crisis?
8. How will we handle big purchases for the home—do we split the cost, or does one person buy?
9. Are we comfortable discussing finances regularly, and do we want to set a "money check-in" time?
10. Do we have the same approach to financial independence versus shared financial responsibilities?

Fun Questions to Ask Before Moving in Together

Now, for the best part: fun questions to ask before moving in together. There's no reason asking questions has to be all business and no play. According to Miller, these are key to adding fun to the conversation.

1. What's a small but sweet thing we can do for each other daily to make cohabiting feel special?
2. What's one quirky habit of yours that I should be prepared for?
3. If we had unlimited money, how would we decorate our dream home?
4. If we could magically add one luxury feature to our home (hot tub, home theater, secret room), what would it be?
5. What's one thing you're excited about doing together once we live under the same roof?
6. What's your dream weekend morning at home?
7. What's your stance on eating in bed—a fun treat or a total mess?
8. If we could host one themed dinner party, what would it be?
9. What's the most ridiculous thing you'd want in our home if money wasn't an issue?
10. What's a small daily habit you have that I might need to get used to?

Why It's Important to Discuss Things Before Moving in Together

We're not just asking questions—to your boyfriend, girlfriend or partner—without reason. It's actually very important to the health and success of your relationship. "Moving in together isn't just about sharing a space—it's about merging lifestyles, habits and expectations," Miller reminds us. "Having a real conversation before the move helps prevent misalignment and unmet expectations."

It allows, she adds, partners to be able to clarify how they handle things like conflict resolution, household responsibilities, financial contributions and personal space. "Without these conversations, couples might find themselves navigating major incompatibilities after they've already signed the lease," she says.